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Am I Gay?
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Hiya, Im new here and need some help, can you help?
I have a girlfriend but have been having gay feelings in the last year or so. I have started looking at guys in the street lusting over them. Then I went on a gay chat room a few weeks back and started chatting to a guy, we met up once or twice and soon after I found myself making love to him during a night we arranged at a hotel. Im still having mixed feelings.
What do I do? Any gays guys or girls that can help?
I have a girlfriend but have been having gay feelings in the last year or so. I have started looking at guys in the street lusting over them. Then I went on a gay chat room a few weeks back and started chatting to a guy, we met up once or twice and soon after I found myself making love to him during a night we arranged at a hotel. Im still having mixed feelings.
What do I do? Any gays guys or girls that can help?
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Then you can take the time to figure out whether you are gay, straight or bisexual.
I think it was over when you cheated on her.
You might find the following articles helpful:
Exploring your sexuality
The wrong label
Coming out checklist
If you're really confused about your sexuality it probably is best to be single for a while and continue exploring your feelings rather than hurting a partner.
Looks like you bat for the other team mate!
I know loadsa gay people that say there Bi but never actually go seeking women... Prob coz gay men are tarts and are easy to other men, haha...
Doesnt really matter anyway, everyone seems to be turning gay around me... maybe im next !? nooooooooo
Gay men are not tarts. Gay men are just men. Most straight men would f*ck like fish with any amount of partners if they were given the chance .... :hyper:
Its true straight men wud fu<k constantly if they could but they dont because you have to find a willing bird & make effort...
Sum gay people i know seem to go up to other men and say fancy a fu<k and off they go in to the toilet.. Nice ey! :no:
As for the question, only you will be able to work out who you are and whether you feel comfortable about sticking any particular label round your neck. Like Kentish and Xila have said, I think the biggest problem was that you were playing around behind your girlfriend's back. If you want to explore your sexuality then cool, but try not to hurt others in the process..
If you want to explore and try new things then its probably best without a girlfriend.
Dont label yourself this or that, its a spectrum.
The PC brigade havnt grabbed us all yet, though I admit it has most people in this board
LOL!
Not bad.
:yes: :thumb:
TBH though, I'm not surprised by the people who laughed...
All I can see is people taking the piss
Taking the mick is not really appropriate in a thread with sensitive matters like confusion over sexuality, in my opinion
If it's not, it's pretty borderline. Posting the jokey picture is saying "I can't deal with this issue so I'll joke about it."
Plus it's a fucking old picture.
Laughing at it just condones it.
Some people may believe that homosexuality is not natural. They don't necessarily have to be right.
You have an opinion, I have mine. I don't criticise you having an opinion, I criticise the fact that it is born of ignorance and hatred.
Obviously not enough to realise the offence you can cause with homophobic remarks, given the nature of the thread.
Stupidity is not an excuse.
Thanx for the advice.
These days I say I'm gay if anyone asks, but equally I'll tell anyone who asks directly that if the right person came along and they happened to be a guy I wouldn't get so caught up in that label that I'd never let myself get together with them.