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worried about sex with new partner
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I've been going out with this girl for about a week now, and it's going well. But I'm nervous about when we get round to having sex, for two main reasons. One, I'm very inexperienced sexually. Two, I'm very self-conscious about my body (v. hairy back and shoulders, you see...) and worried what she might think, or that she'll get turned off. What do you reckon I should do? I don't want to put her off with my complete lack of confidence. Should I talk to her about it, warn her? And how/when to bring it up? Thanks for your suggestions!
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You move fast.
Emm well if i was you i owuld leave it another couple of weeks before you start talking to her about sex, she might feel a little pushed if you mention it now. But i would definately advise talking to her because if you wait till the last minute there could be a lot of embaressment for you.
Anyway Id say just be relaxed dont try anything too adventurus first time are you a virgin or just relativly inexperenced,
Anyway if you take it easy and pretend you know what your doing you should be allright.
Remember if its in and moving in and out then thats how it should be.
Dont worry.
And as for sex, take things slowly, and learn what feels good for you and your girlfriend.
SBG
She's with you for a reason. Enjoy it.
I'm sure she's just as worried as you, just take it easy and stop worrying.
I'm curious as to what exactly you are planning to "warn" her about?
Anyway, I doubt you have any serious problem. Just be cool. Everybody be cool.
Don't worry about it, everything will fall into place when the time's right
Yes it's a problem. But one that can be easily solved.
We all feel self concious about some part of our body. It sucks, yeah. But huni, it's normal to have doubts.
Point is, she obviously has no doubts about going being with you in the first place. Maybe explain, how you can be a little self conscious over your body, but at the same time, try not to dwell on it soo much. As I said before, if it's bugging you that much. Get a wax. See how that works out for ya