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Anyone every had one just for the sex?
Is it possible just to enjoy the sex without getting emtionally involved?
Is it possible just to enjoy the sex without getting emtionally involved?
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have the decency to end it, or keep your pants on. It's quite simple.
if you want to shag around, stay single and shag around.
Put yourself in your partner's shoes. Ignore the fact that they don't fit, and concentrate on the point that the other half is playing away. At your expense.
Yes, I do believe it's possible to just have sex, and not get emotionally involved. 'Fuck-buddies' are what you call people in that kind of relationship.
took the words right out of my mouth...
plus, sleeping with someone who you know is married is pretty wrong imo.
And about emotions, I know some people are capable of separating sex from emotions (mostly men, but some women too) but I could never do it, i have to be very careful about sex because I have too many emotions, and see sex as a very emotional thing.
And even if YOU didn't become emotionally involved, what's to say the other person wouldn't? Especially if it's a woman, women usually have affairs for emotional reasons rather than just for sex.
Sounds like a situation better avoided if you ask me.
:yes:
Does he like me?
Will he call me?
Will this happen again?
Blah, blah, etc. I, for one, know what it's like to think you're "just having sex", but it turns out you're actually becoming somewhat infatuated, and what starts off as "fuck-buddies" turns into something a lot more complicated, and I'd have to advise against it. I went through a very confused and difficult time when I started falling for the person I was sleeping with, and wouldn't wish for anyone to go through that. It's not nice, especially when the feelings aren't mutual.
As for having sex with someone who is already involved (or having sex with someone else when you are involved) - I can't say I've ever done that, and I don't imagine it's a great idea, either. It's obvious that someone in the circle is gonna get hurt, and it's not a fair thing to do now, is it.
For me personally, I cant have sex without getting emotianally invloved, however it's different for most men, woman find it harder to not to have feelings. What's the point of loveless sex anyway? It's crap. I've cheated in the past as a teenager but they werent proper boyfriends and I was young and foolish. Sine I've grown up I've never dome it and I never will.
That's not fair - how do you know, and what makes women so different? This isn't another battle of who's-more-morally-bankrupt here, you know.
It's nothing to do with morals, so get off your high-horse. It's very basic survival.
Males do not invest much in children, sperm, that's it, no major commands on their time, which is why sex is easy. For females they've invested several months, at least, which is why sex is harder, and partners more important. It's survival, women don't want to waste time being out of the reproduction pool. It's instinct, the way we're put together.
Hey, don't get me wrong, there's no horse in sight. I was just questioning her choice of the lexis 'most' - just didn't fit to me. That's all. I refuse to represent the male species... Don't do a good enoguh job anyway.Peace.
I've soooo never understood that saying .. if you have a cake what else would you do with it but eat it?
Keep it, so that you have a cake of course.
Yes, but then its going to go stale, old and moldy. So either you eat it, or you watch as it spoils.
Guys get an instinctive 'protection' feeling for someone they're with, because they need to protect the mother of their child to carry on their genes.
What's your point?
You could freeze it.
But if you have no plans to eat it whats the point?
Because you're torn between your desire to keep it and your desire to eat it. Keep it, no eat it! No, wait, keep it. Freeze it and torment yourself by toying with the possibility of defrosting and devouring it.
So you can enforce torment on yourself. Why would you do that?
Some people are masochists.