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rite im a virgin thing is my b/f dunt think i am and wants us to have sex, there s just a few things i want to get straight b4 i do sleep with him. like do u really bleed first time u have sex, also do guys prefer virgins or experiance?
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You really should tell your boyfriend that it's the first time for you. It will make it a lot easier in the long run. The first time can be painful and if he knows then he can be more gentle and careful about stuff.
On the whole, I don't think guys really care one way or t'other about how much experience you've had. If he wants to go all the way with you, then he should be doing it because he cares about you and not just because he wants to get his end away!!
Just try to be open and as confident as you can be. If you're not happy about something then tell him. If you want to try something new, then tell him.
Also, quite worried that you seem to be just having sex to keep your boyfriend happy. Make sure the first time is because you want to and you are ready. If you are going to enter into such an intimate relationship with him you should try discussing how you are feeling and what you are worrying about. You will probably find that he is worrying about some of the same things (even if he isn't a vigin himself he is likely to still have issues about his own performance!) Also the more relaxed you are the more you will enjoy yourself - remember it is not just about him!
I think you should tell your boyfriend you are a virgin too :yes:
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Because you're special:p
I happen to be male and virgin, so I can kind of see where you are on this. You will have to break the news to your boyfriend. Simply tell him you didn't know what else to say at the time. He will be hurt for a short time, but it doesn't really matter. Women can bleed the first time, as far as I know, or it might just be a bit painful.
Guys though don't mind about virginity. When I sleep with someone, I won't mind if they were a virgin. The feeling I'm introducing them to sex is a turn on! But experience is good as well, in the sense that the other person can tell you what to do, what goes where, what feels good and so on. I would love to have someone telling me what to do in the bedroom, so you've nothing to fear.
Don't worry about this. He won't be taking mental notes during sex, comparing you to other people. Sex is simply about the two of you. No one else need be involved.
I really would advise you to tell your boyfriend, i'm sure it would make the experince a lot more enjoyable for you if he took his time, and foccused on it being special rather than just 'another shag' so to speak,so if you did bleed or felt uncomfortable for any reason your boyfriend will know why.
I can't do it because it is too painful too... but the difference is that he is not virgin... I am...
But I have a girlfriend that bleed only in her second time...
CONGRATULATIONS... AND CELEBRATIONS.....
i bled my first time and it was painful but now all is cooool:cool:
XxX
ditto
if so, i cant wait...only 18 days...
I think it's also possible to bleed on your second time because I had sex with another girl a couple of months before which involved oral and dildos and I bled a little bit then aswell.
I wasn't really expecting to bleed because of that, and also because I've always used tampons and stuff but I guess it just proved that you can't expect anything either way...
The guy I lost it to didn't seem bothered that I was a virgin, I've heard about people who like virgins better (anyone heard the term 'cherry hunter'? lol) but some guys might like to be with someone who knows what they want. When it comes down to it, it really doesn't matter, but I definatly think you should tell him.
I'd seriously consider telling your boyfriend, otherwise he'll be wanting to go at it like rabbits. You really wouldn't want to rush it just yet.