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Ok so... do you know many young people who have had children? I have no idea what a high pregnancy rate would be considered, but last night after finding out 2 more of my friends are pregnant, I got to thinking. I am 19... of girls my age, before we graduated highschool, I knew of 16 who either were pregnant or had a child. (There were about 300 total students in my graduating class) From then and now (about a year) 5 more babies. Now I know of at least 4 more who are pregnant. And those are just of the people I knew. I was at the bottem of the gossip chain, I'm afraid to think of who else there was that I didn't know about. I have to get out of this town quick before I have one. I don't even think you have to have sex here to get pregnant... its just some type of freak in the water.
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It's just a phrase Captian Obvious.
And yes, when it comes to child bearing ages, I do consider it so.
Dunno why, to be honest. I'm not really in a position to judge.
I was just clearing it up as I could barely understand you. No need to try and get funny.
It's their choice. Care to explain how this affects you?
although my brothers then girlfriend only had the baby to get a house on the council but dont even start me on that rant!
my mental cousin is 19 and has just had a baby, but she has a mental age of about 11, so i guess it counts.
i have the utmost respect to any youngster who accidentally falls pregnant and then raises the child well. but i don't understand kids who plan to get pregnant. surely there's more of life to see before you get tied down?
Every year one girl I know keeps getting pregnant, she aborts all the time =( she is now 18 or 19...
Just this year, 3 friends of mine get pregnant (2 of them have the baby already) one of them is 17 the other 2 are 19
I was 24 & he was 22 when i got pregnant.
I don't think we were/are too young at all.
I don't agree, depends intirely on the person.
Yeah i know, but i still think its not too young. I am not talking about the situation as that could be any age ect.
Not arguing just saying it how i see it.
by my standards, yes, a little, cause i still feel way too young to be a mum.
but you're not me. my brother's girlfriend is my age, her son is now 2 and a half, and she's a great mum, and she loves it. she's just more of a homely type person than i am. i guess i'll grow into it.
it depends on you, and how you are as a person.
Thats what i was trying to say earlier to someone else.
The way i see it by having children at my age it means you are still young enough to do things after they have grown up aswell.
People seem to think that by having children means you can't have a life. you can it just changes.
Sure it does. Then its not like you can't do most things when thery are grown up.
to be honest, it's all that responsibility that scares me.
i'm still crap at managing my own life. i wouldn't even know where to start with a littler person i was entirely responsible for.
hehe that scared feeling doesnt go away, you are always hoping you can get it right .
I would say some are mad. Like this girl who use to be my best mate. Same age as me (19). Starts seeing this lad (24) for a couple months. Then she started going on to me about how they are talking about having a baby as she always wanted to settle down. I cracked up with her and told her to wind her neck in and stop being a selfish cow. She still got pregnant. And yes they are still together after a year. But that's after him having a few flings. Hey, her life. *shrugs* Just not something I'd do.
Which I suppose is the important part, so long as whoever-it-is is happy with how their life is, then it's ok - it's their problem.
A girl from my AS psychology class had a baby when she was just seventeen. The baby was planned, and she's one of the happiest people I know. She's got a beautiful little girl, a committed partner, her own house, a good social life, and just got five As in her ASs, which I think proves that having a baby young doesn't need to 'ruin' your life.
Different strokes for different folks, at the end of the day.
If t'missus fell pregnant we'd keep it, and we'd be very happy like that. Finances are the only thing stopping us, really.
Some people will always be too young to have children, and some people will be old aged 14. It depends on what you want.
I personally don't plan on having children until I'm around 28-30, would rather live my life when I was young but thats just personal opinion and I realise not everyone views it this way.
I think it was ineveitable which girls were gonna get up the duff at my school as all but one slet around and had a bad life, poor intelligence and poor self esteem-there was one exception but I'm sure we all know of one or two people who do really well at school despite having a kid.
I do think in my own opinion kids raising kids isn't good-but its a really a selfish reason as the kid who is raining the baby may regret it as they havne't lived their life with no reponsibilities.
As someone earlier in the thread said-I really respect the kid who raises a kid well and does a good job and still gets their own life sorted-but yeh, the ones who plan--or inadvertantly plan by not using contraception are the ones who annoy me!
Ok you all prob think i'm common as muck now, well im not a chav, i dont fight, i dont sleep around(im with babies dad), i do mumsy stuff(playgroups etc)i arent in a council home i am in a housing asociation house which is lovely and i even make him his own babyfood as opposed to buying tins which arent very nutritious.
Ok so blowing my own trumpet now haha!
*suddenly realising my life is pretty damn good*
sorry if i have blown this topic out but ive just had a heeeuge thankful moment which i dont often have!
-Di-
And it's exactly that feeling that ensures you ARE responsible and you DO do your best by them.