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falling in love with your best mate
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i have a problem:
i think i'm falling in love with my best mate, and i'm scared that if we do get together that when it would end, we would hate each other, as that has happened to some extent with his past girlfriend. he is single-yay!, though i don't think he's ready for another relationship as yet, because he had a bad spilt with his girlfriend-who is also my best mate :S only 4/5 weeks ago, and he's still quite hung up on it, as it wasn't nice. i don't know if he likes me but i don't even wanna aproch that for another few weeks.
his ex now has a new boyfriend, but i still feel as though i need to ask her to make sure that she deffiniatly no longer has any feelings left for him, otherwise it would make us hate each other, and that is the last thing i want to do.
i'm not sure whether even bringing up the subject with him is a good idea, cos i really want to keep our friendship above everything else
also-now this is quite a stupid point but any way- he is 6 ft 3, and i'm 5 ft 1. i don't care if it looked odd, but would it affect our relationship? i was thinking about it, and i woulds have thought not as his last girlfriend is 5 ft 2 or 3.
is this a totally stupid idea or not?
we do have so much in common- ie pasts wise, both bi, both into gothicy stuff, love music, and photography and digital art. though i'm i being very stupid getting involved with my best mate, and my best mates ex??
p.s. it was a reasonably mutual spilt, but i know she wanted it much more than he did..
i think i'm falling in love with my best mate, and i'm scared that if we do get together that when it would end, we would hate each other, as that has happened to some extent with his past girlfriend. he is single-yay!, though i don't think he's ready for another relationship as yet, because he had a bad spilt with his girlfriend-who is also my best mate :S only 4/5 weeks ago, and he's still quite hung up on it, as it wasn't nice. i don't know if he likes me but i don't even wanna aproch that for another few weeks.
his ex now has a new boyfriend, but i still feel as though i need to ask her to make sure that she deffiniatly no longer has any feelings left for him, otherwise it would make us hate each other, and that is the last thing i want to do.
i'm not sure whether even bringing up the subject with him is a good idea, cos i really want to keep our friendship above everything else
also-now this is quite a stupid point but any way- he is 6 ft 3, and i'm 5 ft 1. i don't care if it looked odd, but would it affect our relationship? i was thinking about it, and i woulds have thought not as his last girlfriend is 5 ft 2 or 3.
is this a totally stupid idea or not?
we do have so much in common- ie pasts wise, both bi, both into gothicy stuff, love music, and photography and digital art. though i'm i being very stupid getting involved with my best mate, and my best mates ex??
p.s. it was a reasonably mutual spilt, but i know she wanted it much more than he did..
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and the height thing, i wouldn't worry about it too much
the height thing wont make an ounce of difference, dont worry about that.what matters is that the 3 of you are happy with the situation, when it possibly develops. If your mate has a new b/f, and you talk to her b4 hand, i cant see her being really angry at you - you cant help who you like good luck and follow your :thumb:
good luck!!
i talked to her about it, and she was fine with it, she actually said she would be glad to see him with someone else so that he may move on with his life and stop dwelling on the past.
now i don't know whether to wait or to hint it...and how......so confusing..............
thanks to all of you who gave me advice..
but....i'm worried i have totaly set myself up for rejection.....the only chance i have to talk to him in person is on friday night....so i'm seriously pushing this now....and the last time i went out, was like a month ago....eek...:eek2: i'm totally unsure as what to do.
relax, just chill, if he's shown he's a bit interested then you can make him do the running . For some reason when someone starts pesting me too much I find it a turn off. So try and 'act cool'; just like you would at a normal party :thumb:. And if he doesn't bring it up you could always pull him aside for a chat without losing anything
thanks
erm yeh in my experience guys have shit for brains when it comes to telling a gal how he feels n all... just go for it, indeed follow ur heart...
dont worry about any relationship problems affecting your friendship, the likelyness is that if you ever do split up you'll just stay m8s... ive seen it happen before so many times....
hes a guy remember, so "he kinda feels the same" means "he feels the same", and thats that. Dont worry bout rejection, it wont happen!
So yeh stayin cool is definately a good idea, but seeing that ur best m8s you should be able to be frank with eachother without worryin about it...
Good luck!
(hope that this helped)