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Is my mum being unfair?
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Basically my mum said to me that she will no longer lend me anymore money and that I have to get a job (which I have been trying to do for ages). She won't even lend me any if I want to go out (which isn't very much). I think she is being unfair because I am trying really really hard to get a job but I just can't seem to get one plus I help her round the house so I think it is unfair her not lending me money. Do you guys think it is unfair or is it just me?
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oh, and in answer to your question, yes; i think your mum's being fair.
instead of thinking how unfair it is, go out and find a job - then you'll have more money than your sister and you won't have yo ask your mum for it.
Your mum is being fair.
Damn right.
Have you tried asking her if there are any extra jobs you could do for her for a couple of quid until you find a job?
maybe try harder getting a job, let her see you're making a real effort. and promise that you will pay the money back. perhaps actually writing it down as an I.O.U.
:yes: Places like Tescos, McDonalds etc always need staff and are hardly difficult to get a job at....maybe you're just too picky what jobs you're going for. At 17 your mum doesn't have to give you money.
Yes, I think she is being fair. Obviously you're used to her lending yo umoney whenever you want yes? So why is it unfair she's doing the same for your sister? And it isn't called 'lending' when you haven't any means of paying it back is it?
I think she is being fair. My parents haven't given me anything since I was 16 and I worked. I'd rather have my own money and see my parents happy spending what little they have of their own after they pay all the bills! I'm 20 and still live in their house even though I have a job. I pay £40 a month which is peanuts compared to what my friends give their parents.
Seriously though, I do think it's unfair. Though I guess it all depends on the priotities of the family.
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well if you are going out with some friends ask if one or two of them will borrow you the cash you need to hang out with them.
Maybe you're giving the wrong impression when applying for a job. Debs was the first interviw I've been to and I got that, and I know many of my friends have gone through a number of jobs, there are plenty around! You just have to ensure there are vacancies and that when you are in a job interview, your dressed good and your talking politely and talking positivly!
P.s. I don't mean to sound bitchy in that first paragraph. It's just I'm pretty much in the same situation as you are with college and age and money stuff!
Anyway! Tarra!! xxx:)
well, what do you do when you apply to these places? i find that sending a cv is the best option, then they will send you an application form/keep you on their records. if you're going in shops asking if they have any jobs, i think it'd be best to go on your own i.e. not with a group of friends and dress smartly.
Maybe unfair is the wrong word. I just think it's a bitch if one's parents don't ackowledge the fact that you're young and want to enjoy yourself. If she really doesn't ask for money every other day, then I do think that it's legitimate to get money for going out.
I've worked on checkouts so I'm not just being mean! But I'm sorry even a complete idiot can get a job in a supermarket
Yeah but if you're young and want to enjoy yourself you'd work your ass off to get a job. Why should her parents pay for her to go out and have a good time?
Cause if they have the means, then surely they didn't bring her to the world, so she could sit in her room crying.
Maybe her parents cant afford to give her money anymore? Her parents have given her money in the past but they dont see why they should anymore. She has been 'trying' to get a job for months. Like I said, jobs are out there. Even it ifs shit pay. She just needs to try harder.
True, there are some right sorts where I work! But I like to think I got the job 'cause I had the right skills and what not.
I did say if they had the means...
Either way, say she isn't good at calculating, then surely she can't sit behind a cash-register. And that's a zillion of jobs out the window.
I'm rubbish at maths, believe me you don't need to be good at maths to work in a shop/on a checkout. Most tills do the calculating for you, all you have to do is count the change.
Fair enough.
No, the cash till do everything for you now. You press the amount on the till and it tells you how much to give change, it isnt hard to count money.