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Me Me Me Me, thats all you everthink about.
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Selfishness a good thing ? discus
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Simple really.
i live for selfishness lol
who ever says they are never selfish are lying
is there such thing as a selfless good deed?
if so name one..... PLEASE
nuff love x
How could I possibly be anything but selfish when I hold the live of the universe in my hands.
we discussed this in college. there is not really such a thing as when we do something good we do it and we do get something from it
eg. you walk by a homeless person and feel guilty that you just walked by so you go back and do the kind deed and give them a couple of pounds and the guilt disappears and you get a good feeling.
or
you raise money for charity and you help a good cause but you also get a good feeling from it.
is that clear or do i sound like im talking shit?
I love F.R.I.E.N.D.S and on one of the episodes Joey and Phoebe talk about selfless good deeds and Joey does all these crazy things to prove to Phoebe that there is such a thing.....
but guess what?
Joey couldnt find one....
ahh i love friends.
however, selfless deeds of goodwill... hmm... i'm reminded of the bible story where all the rich jews put large sums of money into the temple collecting boxes, and then a poor woman came in and put her two coins in, and jesus told his disciples that she gave more, because she gave all she had, which in a sense is my feeling on charity
yes, it's nice to help others, but to make a point of how generous you are is silly, it should be for your benefit
there's some cock round my area who's donating loads of money to 'help young people help themselves' which is a pile of rubbish, he's doing it to fiddle taxes and feel less guilty for being a crook all his life... i've boycotted his award scheme and trying to convince other people to do the same...
I didn't want to know that
cause, you know, if you walk past a charity tin and put £2 in, even if it's only to make yourself feel/look good, the charity still gets £2.
I give to charity because it makes me feel good about helping people who need it. Is that really self-righteous?
does it really matter?
the charity is still getting money.
lol.... thanks for making my day, i miss an intelligent innuendo, i've had to put up with 'dragon juice' related crap all day
Brian drinks too much one night. Brian thinks his drinks been spiked. Brian starts spewing. Brian spews blood up.
Brian's mates make sure he's OK, go with him in the ambulance., give him a sofa to crash on afterwards etc.
No way were they anything but selfless when that happened. I'm sure they didn't think "Oh, not only will this save this stupid bastards life, it'll also give me oh such a warm feeling inside"
Yanno?
all i really mean is no matter what good thing we do we get something out of it not always at the time we do it but later.
You're right, but I'd bet they wouldn't have thought selfish thoughts at the time. So I reckon that'd make it a sefless act, even if down the line they do somehow benefit from it.
IMHO, it's more to do with what goes through your head at the time that makes it a selfless/selfish act.
I do know what you mean though.
if your mates got you to hospital when you needed, that was a good thing for them to do, regardless of their reasoning behind it. whyever they did what they did, they did the right thing.
if you get me. i know what i mean. i think wee wuman is going along the same lines too.
Ach, I dunno different for everyone maybe.
And get paid £10 per hour doing it...
eh what? im raising money for diabetes uk at the end of this month and i sure as shit aint getting ten pound an hour!
It's Phoebe trying to find a selfless deed for Joey, isn't it?
But aye, I loved that episode
Yeah, they are for those cunting comapnies that make money from charities by doing the donkey work for them. You aren't working for a charity, you are working for a company that makes profit by charging charities for fundraisers.
In Durham we have them, and it means there's the same ten nobheads on the street corner every day, but one day they'll be wearing a "Shelter" bib, the next day it'll be Greenpeace, and so on. I generally just knee them in the nuts and walk on by:)
So yes, I am the only thing I ever think about. Because I'm the only thing that actually exists.
doesn't make you feel better - in fact it makes you feel a lot worse. but its better for them in the long run because it will help them start to get over you.
but theres probably a loophole