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i was having a conversation with someone a while ago, and we were discussing the art of proposing.
we got onto the subject of girls proposing to the guys, instead of the other way round...
we had very differing opinions on this, and i was just wondering what other people thought...
we got onto the subject of girls proposing to the guys, instead of the other way round...
we had very differing opinions on this, and i was just wondering what other people thought...
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oddly as this seems, to anyone who knows me, or has even met me, when the subject of marriage comes up, i turn from sulky tomboy into giggly girlie.
and i always thought if someone wanted to propose to me they would have to do it properly. asking my dad, getting down on one knee, all that jazz.
but then mr. kaff said if i was waiting for him to do that i might be waiting a very long time (which is probably true, when we were first together i had to demand that he kissed me. if there's a bush anywhere, he'll be the one beating around it) and if i wanted anything done before we turned 70, i'd have to ask him.
and i was OUTRAGED. in my own, quiet, not really that outraged kind of way.
but the more i think about it, the more i think, why the hell not?
but then, i also think if he loves me enough to stay with me forever, then surely he loves me enough to do this one (or two) little (or really quite big) thing for me?
If I think about it, it would be nice to have it done 'properly' but since I dont have a dad and a 'traditional' family with any traditional type values, it's not really me.
I think it depends on the couple, to be honest- tradition is good in its own way, but if a girl is desperate to marry her bf then she should ask, because it saves hassle:)
same. i asked him out, i asked him to kiss me, i asked him to move in with me.
i'd just like to be the one who's asked for a change.
we've kind of been discussing it for ages, and i kind of subtly suggested that that's what some girls might want....
So that night when he did propose and I was all excited and phoned my Mum & Dad to tell them, they already knew :yeees:
just because then i can be sure that this is what he wants and that he doesn't feel pressured because i asked him.
anyway what am i talking about marriage for.. :nervous:
no offence to you vicky but i think itsa big thing, and it should be perfect... and thats the way its always bin, man ask woman, the getting down on one knee lark id love to do, but only for the comedy/romance value hehe
that also comes into it. because of the kind of person he is, i won't know unless he initiates it that this is what he really wants.
i doubt it'll happen this year. i think he thinks he's too young.
I think if I asked him, knowing me I'd probably spend my whole life wondering if he really wanted to marry me or if he was just being polite by saying yes!
Thats a crap reason:p
But at least you know how we feel when we ask:)
hmm not really since some of the other girls said similar things.
by a man asking me to marry him then i would know for sure that he wanted to spend the rest of his life with me. that's why i need him to ask me.
Yeah, its also why we could do with the girls asking us every now and again:)
*bouncebounce*
Congrats hon, piccies?:)
*boingboingboing*
Congratulations
I hope you will be very happy