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Yeah but when I first drove a car on my own, I GAINED my license, I hadn't lost my non-license status- although I had but it's the terminology of losing that's being questioned.
ETA: before you've had sex you are a 'virgin', after you 'lose' your virginity you aren't an anything. Why the special word for the person that hasn't done it, how come it's so important?
sorry, how does it back that idea?
It's a right of passage into adulthood, the start of things to come (no pun intended) and you only lose it once, that's why it's a big deal.
Nitpicking about the phrasing of 'losing one's virginity' seems crazy and a waste of time to me. :chin:
When I "lost" mine (still hate that phrase) with my first g/f I was rather young and immature. I did not feel any more empowered or wiser or whatever than my friends. Actually after it ended, one week or two later I felt so much the very same as if it never happened. It was definitelly not a tick on my to-do-list back then. And I definitelly did not tell my friends as in rubbing it under their noses. When they asked later on I told them, but I never had the feeling to "show off" with it.
People are stressing way to much about it, imho.
I still find it funny though, but I'm twisted.
Ever heard of condoms?
What are they, I'm a Catholic! :angel:
HOWEVER, just before I met my partner in person (we'd had an internet/phone/letter based relationship as we were both really busy with uni and had no time to travel to meet each other until the academic year was over) I was reading an article in Cosmopolitan or something about girls who decided they were going to be "born again" virgins. The thought that you could go into a relationship, declare yourself a virgin and let it all come "naturally" (no pun intended) appealed to me. My partner knew I had alot of experience compared to him BUT I explained to him when we met that I wanted to approach sex with him as if I was doing it for the first time. That night was much more special to me than the previous 4 lovers I'd had (and that included the lad who taught me alot!).
I think sex within a proper relationship is more special and exciting as you have the chance to explore each other more often, learn what one another likes/dislikes and then move on to more "interesting" activities in the bedroom than you would involving a one-night-stand or on your first time with someone.
As for the big deal over loosing your virginity, I think we need to emphasise just how special it should be as in you should be sober (or at least not drunk!) and in a relationship with someone you trust first. I regret how I lost mine, and the reputation it got me (okay so I lived up to the reputation for a couple of months but thats besides the point
Poor you
My virginity was never a big deal at any point. Why do you people worry so much?!