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Miscarriage
Pearly
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For anyone who's suffered a miscarriage, here's a new article focusing on how to cope with losing a baby. We speak to Zoe who's been through it herself - she tells us how she coped with her loss.
Miscarriage: The emotions
We also have an article up on
Miscarriage: The facts
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Miscarriage: The emotions
We also have an article up on
Miscarriage: The facts
Thanks
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Thats the worst thing. When someone says "oh it probably happened for a reason" or "there was probably something wrong with the baby"
Of course there bloody was - thats why im so bloody devastated
You definitely need a list there of what not to say.
I found these:
That's really useful, I'm sure many of us stumble on what to say in this kind of a situation...
That really fucking got to me. That was how my boyfriend at the time reacted.
That's men for you. I'm sure it was meant in an empathetic way, he just didn't think about it too much before coming out with it.
Boys do come out with strange things sometimes though :yes:
In that case then, what a wanker! :mad:
Indeed!
I personally found even well meaning people could make the hurtful comments though.
Thankfully I had a lot of support with mine, and I still felt like I was going nuts at some point. i dread to think how hard it must be for someone who doesnt have that support.
I kept the whole thing locked up. I couldn't talk to anyone. Its probably why I didn't deal with it very well. My parents only found out about my miscarriage after they found out about the site a year and a half after it happened. That wasn't nice. My Mum was really upset that I couldn't talk to her about it (she has had quite a few miscarriages in her time, once it being twins) but she didn't even know I was in a relationship at the time so yanno
My Mum was 7 months pregnant at the time I miscarried which made the thing much more traumatic for me though, especially as I was there when she gave birth.
People do make hurtful comments without meaning to though, such as "it's for the best" sorta comments.
Whilst I was a little bit relieved when GWST miscarried (neither of us were in a position to be parents) I was upset as well. I do want children, and I do sometimes wonder what it might have been like. It also knocked our sex life for six as well, which I think was the worst thing (and it was me as much as anything).
Aye, it was. Thank you