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Hwo do I tell them I'm not interested?
BillieTheBot
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There's a few girls on the same course as me. When we do our work, we usually talk about random stuff not related to what we're working on. For a while now, one of them has been basically planning my brithday! The thing is, I don't drink like they do (as in, go out most weekends and basically get pissed) because it's not something I enjoy.
Now, how do I tell them that going out and getting pissed isn't something I really like doing? They already know I rarely drink, yet they're still planning on taking me out.
Now, how do I tell them that going out and getting pissed isn't something I really like doing? They already know I rarely drink, yet they're still planning on taking me out.
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Do just that. You can compromise - plenty of places do non-alcoholic cocktails, f'rinstance. Be flattered that they care about you enough to organise stuff for your birthday! I think that's lovely...
Did you not know until fairly recently (as in, last week or so)? If you knew it from the beginning you should have told them you're not interested right away.
Just be open and honest, and do it quick! Tell them that you really appreciate the thought, but you'd feel more comfortable doing something else. If you want to party with them on your birthday, include them. If not, let them know you'll be spending an evening by yourself. Say it's a tradition or something and you meditate on your birthday. It'll be far worse if you let them plan it and you go out with them and things get ugly. After a few drinks, you might just let all that resentment out in a most profound way. I'm not speaking from experience or anything here... well okay maybe I am! My mates always wanted to take me to strip establishments on my birthday and I'm really not into that. One night after a bottle or two I told them how I felt and got really upset and ended up losing some very close mates of mine. Don't make my mistake.