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Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
Frequently asked questions.

Firstly.
Masturbate. It's spelt like that. Masturbate and Masturbation. I know that that's not a FAQ, but seeing it spelt wrong bugs me.

Girls Masturbation
Yes, Girls do masturbate. They are not as open as guys about it, but most (not all) girls do masturbate.
Not only is masturbation a safe and perfectly healthy thing to do, it is the very best way to figure out what you do and do not like when it comes to sex, and it’s important if you want to work on enjoying sexual pleasure and on achieving orgasm. It also gives us a chance to figure out a lot of important things about how we feel about sex, sexual pleasure, and being sexual people.

Boys masturbation and Orgasms
boys do masturbate too. (duh). There's very little to say about male masturbation.... most guys manage to orgasm from masturbating without too much trouble.
Oh, if your cum doesn't shoot across the room, it's not a problem - if you really really want it to shoot, EITHER cut down on masturbation completely, and only do it like once a week or something. Abstaining also means that you will reach a more violent orgasm. OR bring yourself up so you are almost cumming, and then stop... then repeat. when you eventually do let yourself reach climax it will be pretty violent.

Orgasms for girls and the Elusive clitoris
NOT every girl can orgasm from vaginal penetration alone. (vaginal penetration is inserting something - a finger, a vibrator, a penis, whatever else you use - into the vagina.) In fact, almost half of girls cannot orgasm from this.
http://www.scarleteen.com/body/images/female_external2.gif
That is where the clitoris is.
Looking at the vestibule, between those inner labia from the top down (right below your mons), you'll first see top of the the inner labia, which create a little skin fold called the clitoral hood. That hood connects to the glans, which is the tip of the clitoris (klit-or-iss). If you pull up the hood with your fingers, you can get a closer look. In women, this is usually the most sensitive spot of the vulva. In fact, it is created of the same sort of erectile tissue that the head of a penis is created of (for an interesting comparison of male and female genital organs, see here). Before we are born, until about the sixth week of our lives as an embryo, our sexual organs are slightly developed, but are completely the same.

If you feel the clitoris with your fingers, you'll probably feel a tingle or a tickle. Rubbing it a bit, you can feel a hardish portion that is the shaft of the clitoris. The clitoris (sometimes called the "clit" or the "spot") is the primary source of most female genital sensation. When you masturbate, it is what you will most likely (but not always) touch and manipulate to pleasure yourself. The clitoris is, in fact, the only organ on the entire body that is solely for sexual arousal, and is attached to ligaments, muscles and veins that become filled with blood during arousal (when you get sexually excited) and contract during orgasm. The clitoris is what most women like to have stimulated during oral or digital (with hands and fingers) sex, during masturbation, and during intercourse. All of us are different in how and where we like our clitorises touched (or if we do at all!). For some, rubbing too fast or hard, or right on the tip or shaft may be uncomfortable, but for others, it's just the thing. Like near anything else in sex, the best way to find out is to experiment by masturbating.

Size for Men
average penis size is somewhere in the vicinity of 5-6 inches long when erect. This average is based on several international different surveys done by researchers and doctors. What this means is that five to six inches is the most common penis length, but that there are penises that are longer and penises that are shorter that are all perfectly normal, healthy, desirable penises.
Penis size has nothing to do with body size. Bigger, taller people do not necessarily have bigger or longer penises. Shorter people don't necessarily have smaller ones. The size of your hands, feet, or nose is no indicator. Neither is how big a penis is when it is soft: some penises get a lot bigger when they get hard, other penises don't get all that much bigger when they get hard. Fat guys do not have smaller penises than thin guys, Asian guys do not have smaller penises than White guys, and Black guys' penises don't average any larger than anyone else's. Those are all stereotypes, and have no basis in truth. Penises come in a lot of different possible sizes. That's nothing more or less than run of the mill human variation.

So girls, you can't find out the size of a guy's penis from his hand span. (foiled)

Birth Control
It's always best to be using two methods of birth control - double protection. This does NOT mean that you should use two condoms!! NO NO NO! Using two condoms increases the chance of them splitting, and just generally makes the whole process more risky.
rules for condoms
Never use a condom that is past its Best before, or Use by date. These are more likely to break. Try to use a reliable make. Generally flavoured ones shouldn't be used for penetration, as they are made for oral, so aren't quite so strong.
Read the instructions on the condom packet. pinch the top and roll it down slowly over the erect penis. You can't do it when the penis is soft, for some reason. Once he has cum, carefully remove the penis from the vagina - it's not a very good idea to keep going, because the cum in the condom increases the chances of it splitting. Carefully take the condom off - making sure not to spill any of the cum that you have worked so hard to keep in there.
Dispose of the condom healthily. do NOT flush it down the toilet. put it in the bin. If you do not want it to be seen - how about putting it inside an empty drinks can?
Condoms are 98% effective. This means that out of every 100 women using condoms, 2 of them will get pregnant in a year.
The Combined Pill - the one that is usually prescribed.
  • If you've missed a pill, don't take two the next day.
  • We can't advise you on your pills - we don't know anything about them, because we didn't subscribe them to you.
  • Any doubts - see your gyno, or doctor, or whoever subscribed you them
  • The pill is 99% effective if taken according to instructions. This means that out of every 100 women taking it, only one will get pregnant in a year.
  • Please note - Not effective if taken over 12 hours late, or after vomiting or severe diarrhoea.
  • Some drugs may stop the pill working.
  • Pill users should not smoke
Other Methods of contraceptionDepo is an injection, given every three months. However, If you have side effects, you are stuck with them for the whole three months. It's not like the pill when you can stop taking it.

Anal Sex
Not everybody hates anal sex. Just the same as not everybody likes it. I hear that it can be quite enjoyable, and personally I have no problem with anyone doing it.

What turns people on
guys are turned on by just about anything. Jk. Guys, like girls, are all different. We all get turned on by different things. There are no set rules.

Sex
Different positions are good. We like variation. Just experiment and find what's right for you and your partner.
The age to have sex. I would say, as a general rule, it is probably better to wait until you are legally allowed to have sex. I know that a lot of people disagree with this. But look at it this way:
A seventeen year old in England and Wales having sex with his FIFTEEN year old girlfriend, in a perfectly happy, consenting relationship, can be put ON THE SEX REGISTER along with another seventeen year old caught abusing a 12 year old girl.
Risks like that are not to be taken lightly. For laws on sex in England and Wales go to - http://www.thesite.org/info/sex/other_sex_issues/whats_within_the_law.html
To find the age of consent, go to - http://www.ageofconsent.com/ageofconsent.htm It's quite a confusing site, because it's all the actual laws as they were written. But it's the most reliable site there is on the issue.
If the penis will not fit inside the vagina, either the girl is not relaxed enough, or you need more lube.

The Hymen
Long ago (and still sometimes today) it was thought that the hymen was "evidence" of whether or not a woman had had sexual intercourse, but that is not the case at all. Not even all women are born with intact hymens! When someone is talking about "popping a cherry," this is what they are referring to, though it's really a misnomer. Your hymen is usually easily stretched or eroded with fairly basic physical activity, tampon use, masturbation, or other things. Even if your hymen is intact, it rarely covers that opening completely, but has little holes and perforations in it. Even after it has been torn or stretched, little folds of tissue remain. During first intercourse, pain or bleeding you experience may be due to stretching your hymen, and is perfectly normal. However, that pain or bleeding may well also be because you had sex without being aroused enough to be properly lubricated, or did not use extra lubricant if needed. On the other hand, there are some women whose hymens simply are so thick, or have such a small opening, that it is indeed painful to have intercourse or penetrate the vagina otherwise, and sometimes a medical procudre need be done to remedy that. All in all, there are many reasons for sexual pain, and stretching the hymen is only one of many.

[ 23-05-2002: Message edited by: lil_kazzy ]

Comments

  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Wow. See, that's a good post. <IMG SRC="smile.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">

    However, d'ya honestly think newbies are gonna bother reading this? I mean, it's great, but it's more than 5 words.

    (Or 13 strokes. <IMG SRC="tongue.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">)
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by Turtle:
    <STRONG>Wow. See, that's a good post. <IMG SRC="smile.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">

    However, d'ya honestly think newbies are gonna bother reading this? I mean, it's great, but it's more than 5 words.

    (Or 13 strokes. <IMG SRC="tongue.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">)</STRONG>

    lol. I can hope.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by lil_kazzy:
    <STRONG>

    lol. I can hope.</STRONG>

    Good idea. Might take a bit of a miracle for it to happen. <IMG SRC="smile.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by Turtle:
    <STRONG>

    Good idea. Might take a bit of a miracle for it to happen. <IMG SRC="smile.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"></STRONG>

    But you're a God, Turtle. Surely you can make miracles?
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by Turtle:
    <STRONG>Wow. See, that's a good post. <IMG SRC="smile.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">

    However, d'ya honestly think newbies are gonna bother reading this? I mean, it's great, but it's more than 5 words.

    (Or 13 strokes. <IMG SRC="tongue.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">)</STRONG>

    We may not all be GODS like you turtle .. but some of us can actually form sentences :P
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    in relation to turtle and his magnificent miracles.


    did ur mother ever drop u on ur head when u were a child, coz i think u r the stupidest piece of low life crap that ever set foot on this earth.

    you should respect people for what they are. if people have trouble putting sentences together, it is probably because of low life scum like u bullying the mi school <IMG SRC="mad.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Thanks for that post.
    It was brilliant- very informative cheers.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    . if people have trouble putting sentences together, it is probably because of low life scum like u bullying the mi school
    I suggest we rename the sex forum the comedy forum.....

    This stuff is great! <IMG SRC="biggrin.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"> <IMG SRC="eek.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"> <IMG SRC="rolleyes.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Roflol.

    No, I don't believe I'd be classed as a bully, although granted, some of my actions do aim to exculding people from this community, but generally it is for the good of the community.

    Admittedly, there are people in this world who do have trouble stringing sentences together. Gareth Gates is an example that comes to mind. Hell, he had trouble stringing letters together. But generally, these people try. They make the effort, and it's normally quite visible. People, however who insist on excluding vowels, replacing letter combinations with numbers and generally disgracing our glorious tongue, deserve all the disrespect the populace can muster. You have a perfectly adequate education system. You have a enough money to by books, rather than wasting it on demerit goods. That's what pisses me off, people who obviously don't try in the first place.

    Incidentally, no, my mother never dropped me on my head. She did throw me into a cupboard once, but that didn't actually affect the performance of my grey matter. If, however, you care to challenge me to a battle of the minds, I'd be more than willing to accept, assuming you can prove your own basic literacy skills in the first place. I wouldn't want to embarass you entirely.

    Another side point, don't send me PMs with exactly what you wrote on the boards. I do read these threads, and it shows a distinct lack of creativity on your behalf.

    Now stay here and incur my wrath, or run along with your skateboards and porn magazines, and we'll see who gets to CEO first, eh?

    [Edited for the finer points of grammar]

    [ 23-05-2002: Message edited by: Turtle ]
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    LMFAO <IMG SRC="biggrin.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">

    Turtle, babe, you're priceless.

    and lil_kazzy, nice post girl. Well done. <IMG SRC="smile.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    lil_kazzy, your post is too fucking long! I read the first sentence and got bored. <IMG SRC="mad.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Please please please tell me the above post is a piss take!
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by Turtle:
    <STRONG>Please please please tell me the above post is a piss take!</STRONG>

    All of our thoughts about newbies summed up in a sentence! <IMG SRC="wink.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    lil_kazzy, your post is too fucking long! I read the first sentence and got bored.

    Am surprised the he/she knows what a sentence is.

    Oh and yeah nice name........not!!
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Says you, you tosser
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by Bangkok Chick Boy:
    <STRONG>Says you, you tosser</STRONG>

    Fuck you, Clemence!

    <img src="http://www.thevoice.i8.com/images/1.gif&quot; alt="image"> <img src="http://www.thevoice.i8.com/images/1.gif&quot; alt="image"> <img src="http://www.thevoice.i8.com/images/1.gif&quot; alt="image"> <IMG SRC="wink.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Fuck you, Norman!
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by Bangkok Chick Boy:
    <STRONG>Fuck you, Norman!</STRONG>

    Good comeback!!! <IMG SRC="rolleyes.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">

    Why have you got such a big fuckin sig?? <IMG SRC="biggrin.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">

    *laughing at bangkok Chick Boy for his inability to use a computer* <IMG SRC="biggrin.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"> <IMG SRC="biggrin.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Another sad little teenager seeking attention, will now be ignored!

    Fanny <IMG SRC="rolleyes.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Well you're a stupid Scottish **** ! LMAO @ wuckFit, and what a good signiture you have, Dill Pickle Slice! You ignoramus!
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by wuckFit:
    <STRONG>Another sad little teenager seeking attention, will now be ignored!

    Fanny <IMG SRC="rolleyes.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"></STRONG>

    who??? <IMG SRC="confused.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
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