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Mainly cos they've got blokes and stuff, and they tend to see each other rather than me. I'm not interested in going out with them when they're being all coupley because i just get left out, so no point seeing them much.
c'mon, its a bit of humour. You seen the thread on Sex and know how Lacy posts, its nowt she can't handle I am sure.
and I was kinda serious. She seems to be critical of guys bedroom performance and has no bones about it, I am sure there are loads of girls who do the same thing, probably enjoy laughing about hwo crap guys in bed are, so there u have summat in common.
yeah, but you wouldn't look for someone who has a bad trait in common with you...
I agree with lipsy... Catch up with your friends you have, with girly evenings, and maybe you'll find new friends through them. Since you aren't seeing them much, their social life will have probably altered too. I can't fathom the "dragging the boyfriend everywhere along" either. When I meet up with my friends the girlfriends are almost never present.
Best is always to connect where you already have a start...
Tbh Lacy, the same thing happens with male friends too, they either hook up and disappear or it feels awkward. I think that if they are real friends when they would make time to see you.
I like crude jokes, I like being sarcastic, I like being loud, I don't like bitchyness and I don't like fall outs and rows. With girls you get a lot of this.
I'm pretty sure I know what you mean.
The kinds of evenings that Lipsy talked about, girl bonding sessions (sleepovers, whatever you like) can be fabulous and a great way to boost your sense of self-worth and wellbeing. You could suggest something similar with your current friends and really remind them what friendship is all about i.e girlfriends aren't just there to chat to when the boyfriend is busy/has done something wrong - there's lots of fun to be had!
But while it sounds like you already have some pretty good friends, it's perfectly natural to want to expand your circle and get to know different types of people.
Showing an interest in other women - including complimenting them on their dress sense (only if you mean it!), finding out about their weekend - especially if you did something good yourself that you can talk about, asking them questions about their family (in a "have you got any brothers or sisters" way) can be a great way to start. It's also good to show some reserve to begin with - be friendly and open, but don't give too much as this can transfer as a lack of self-awareness. (perhaps relate this to how you might be with a guy you really liked).
But by far one of the most valuable qualities, imo, is patience. While there's bound to be people you click with straight away, other friendships can take time to really blossom - especially in the busy world we live in!
I think you are approaching this from a really positive point of view and really hope things start to look up on the mates front