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Odd can be good
How old are you Johnnyboy?
What is wierd? You don't have to be the same as everyone else.
I'm not really that into clubbing and getting drunk much, but as you get older you feel more comfortable in your own skin. It can seem like everyone else is into it but when you meet more people you will find they have different hobbies.
What are your hobbies?
There's also nothing wrong with going places on your own. I find people who are terrified of being alone rather pathetic. I used to be nervous of doing things alone but now I don't really care. The guy in your class sounds insecure.
However, if you always find yourself doing things alone because you have no one to do them with, it may be an idea to broaden your horizons and meet more people and get involved with social things. It's not good to always be alone, people need to interact.
That's not odd in itself, but if you don't socialise regularly then how are you supposed to meet new people?
A lot of people don't like clubbing- I don't especially like it, but now I'm not single its a bit better as the cattle market amuses me rather than depresses me- and its not odd to not like drinking alcohol either. So don't worry about being weird.
But the point is that watching films and playing computer games tend to be quite solitary hobbies, and so you won't meet new people if you don't do social hobbies. A social hobby doesn't need to be going to a club and getting hammered though.
Everyone is different, you might come to a point in your life where you do go out more often then again you might not. Just dont be forced in to anything you don't want to do.
After all you are your own person
If you want to pull they're great but if you just want to chill out with some cool people a friendly pub is much better, or better still, a lounge with your mates. All my best memories with my friends are in lounges of one sort, I mean you can't beat a sofa can ya?
I think you should do what makes you happy.
But to be quite honest I get the impression that staying at home with the DVDs doesn't make you happy, and without being cruel, you aren't going to meet girlfriends sat at home on the xbox.
If you want to meet new people, new friends and new lovers, then you have to make yourself available. It doesn't need to be in a club or pub if you don't like dancing and you don't like drinking, but you don't meet new people sitting at home on your tod.
What I mean is, if you were at uni then I'd tell you to join a new club or society to meet new people.
Some people just don't like clubbing. Personally i hate night clubs, but thats because of my music tastes, i prefer rock clubs. Not everyone drinks, i never touched a drop of alcohol untill i was 18! (thats rare in this day and age).
Going out alone is not wierd and does show confidence. I envy people who can just go to a bar or restraunt on their own. I'd feel as though everyone was staring at me if i did it. As long as you are comfortable with the way you live your life then that is all that matters.
Just a reminder, this is an advice board and im only asking for help/advice since thats what its here for, not to be judged.
To me, this is a thread full of people offering advice and suggestions based on your situation... :chin:
also didn't like what I said on second glance.