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First I would like to thank all those who replied to a post I did a while ago asking for advice on improving my socialising. I've been working on it with good success, and am proud to say that I'm already closer to my friends than before. 
I'm also making more of an effort on myself which has boosted my self confidence further.
However, it's not all peachy yet as I am still finding it enormously hard to connect to strangers. I am a tad bit scared of it and am finding that I get very jittery around people, I glance around myself a lot and probably radiate 'okay I'm not that interested in you' through my body language.
I've been making an effort to attend social situations and likewise do make an effort to pay attention. I do make some conversations but I just seem unable to follow them through (if you know what I mean). Also, I get kinda clingy around the few people I know and I hate that. It's just so terrible when I go somewhere by myself and realise I don't know anybody. It completely throws me off.
I'm lost as of what I could change to fix this. I do want to get closer to people but unwillingly I push them away from me and I really have no idea how to stop that. I socialise, I try to talk, I listen, but I just don't seem to be getting much closer to the end result.
Any thoughts or ideas?
I'm also making more of an effort on myself which has boosted my self confidence further.However, it's not all peachy yet as I am still finding it enormously hard to connect to strangers. I am a tad bit scared of it and am finding that I get very jittery around people, I glance around myself a lot and probably radiate 'okay I'm not that interested in you' through my body language.
I've been making an effort to attend social situations and likewise do make an effort to pay attention. I do make some conversations but I just seem unable to follow them through (if you know what I mean). Also, I get kinda clingy around the few people I know and I hate that. It's just so terrible when I go somewhere by myself and realise I don't know anybody. It completely throws me off.
I'm lost as of what I could change to fix this. I do want to get closer to people but unwillingly I push them away from me and I really have no idea how to stop that. I socialise, I try to talk, I listen, but I just don't seem to be getting much closer to the end result.
Any thoughts or ideas?
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