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Hi. I've got a problem which I would appreciate some advice on, if thats ok.
A while ago I was in an abusive relationship with a family member. I ran away from that family member and my home and I haven't had any contact with them for years. I've been going to University now and things on the whole have been going quite well. A few things have happened recently. This family member knows where I am. A few days ago they approached me and they beat me up amongst the other things they did. I'm really scared of them.
I keep debating in my mind whether I should go to the Police. The Police have been involved before but have proved to be a bit of a waste of time. But I'm scared of what he will do next. I don't really know what to do.
I suppose I am looking for some advice.
A while ago I was in an abusive relationship with a family member. I ran away from that family member and my home and I haven't had any contact with them for years. I've been going to University now and things on the whole have been going quite well. A few things have happened recently. This family member knows where I am. A few days ago they approached me and they beat me up amongst the other things they did. I'm really scared of them.
I keep debating in my mind whether I should go to the Police. The Police have been involved before but have proved to be a bit of a waste of time. But I'm scared of what he will do next. I don't really know what to do.
I suppose I am looking for some advice.
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Surely as you are at university you will qualify for legal aid for this - i'm sure there must be an organisation who can point you in the right direction to get help.
You can get an injunction to stop someone coming near you and can get help with this if you cant pay for a solicitor. The police should be able to tell you how to go about doing this in your area or a domestic violence agency would be able to (many domestic violence organisations deal with violence from family members now as well as from partners).
There is information about injunctions and numbers you could call for advice on your rights here http://www.womensaid.org.uk/domestic-violence-survivors-handbook.asp?section=000100010008000100330002 its written about domestic violence but I'm pretty sure it would apply in your situation too as it says it applies to relatives.
Also a good idea to write down every contact he has with you - when it happened and what happened as the police might need this information.
:yes: The Samaritans are a counselling organisation so Sofie is right to direct you towards them if you feel you'd like to talk to someone in confidence about what you've been going through. However, you may also want to consider Supportline as they actually provide emotional support and help you work out strategies for moving forward. You can call them on 020 8554 9004.
As Ballerina mentioned, there are organisations available to help women who have experienced domestic violence - Refuge provides a helpline in partnership with women's aid.
I can understand it must be hard to consider contacting the police again bearing in mind you didn't have a positive experience the first time round, but perhaps think about going with a trusted family member or close friend
I hope this helps.
Yeah - it just makes it less confusing for the OP to read the posts which actually refer to her problem