If you need urgent support, call 999 or go to your nearest A&E. To contact our Crisis Messenger (open 24/7) text THEMIX to 85258.
Read the community guidelines before posting ✨
Options
Take a look around and enjoy reading the discussions. If you'd like to join in, it's really easy to register and then you'll be able to post. If you'd like to learn what this place is all about, head here.
Comments
I really don't know what to think when it comes to girls anymore.
I even question my own stance... I think why bother being nice and respectful to anybody anymore because they will only take advantage of you and take the piss out of you. (Note: this isn't a bitter saying about girls but how Being nice for me only gets you treated like crap by everyone). I know im not owed anything by anyone and peeps can be arseholes but somedays I just think whats the point?
if that was a piss taking jab at me then your the last person to say something like that...
just to make it clear I havn't got a grudge against anyone or anything. Its just at times I feel really fed up with everything and need to vent.
basically my main fear is this: I can't be me anymore because im too soft/geeky/nice/wimpy/geeky/quiet to do anything and in order to even carry on in live just become dead on the inside or if not just stop being a nice guy and just look out for number one...
One question: is it bad to be sensitive? cause if it is I will switch completly off if thats the case...
I wouldn't recommend switching it off though, eventually all that emotion you repress with come back and hit you much harder than it would of at the time. Plus, there's a chance that it could make you resentful towards others because you aren't allowing yourself to feel.
There's no point in talking about "switching off completely" as that'd simply be you being someone you're not. Embrace the fact that you are a sensitive, sentient human being who obviously experiences life on a very emotional level for your own (perfectly valid) reasons. That will be attractive to a lot of women - and people in general - without a doubt, you need to retain that sensitivity and understanding and concentrate on working on the other aspects of your life that are lacking - like your self-confidence and aptitude for developing relationships. You have good qualities (believe me!) so don't obliterate them in some quest to become the cookie cutter "bloke" that you mistakenly believe every woman is seeking out. This will all come with time, you just need to believe that there are good parts to you and that when you start putting yourself out there and caring less about what other people think then you'll start to reap the benefits - maybe not immediately (or even soon) in terms of finding ms. right... but in terms of the way you view yourself and your entire perspective on life. You've stumbled at the starting block but it's a loooong, long race as anyone who's in it will tell ya
Only reason I asked is because for example a girl goes a bit funny so you 'disappear' for a while then come back gradually (not mentioning anything about love)
can I get your opinion my idea in my previous post please? or any other ideas what to do
If the girl goes a bit funny I can 'disappear' for a while then come back gradually (not mentioning anything about love). At least I hope I could speak to her after without a tongue lashing.
any other ideas?
sorry to be a pest