How do I do it?

Former Member

I know this may sound odd, but I'm 20 and still a virgin, although I'm not bad looking and have loads of friends its just never happened. However I was chatting to a corridor mate, and we're always flirting etc and after chatting we decided we'd sleep togehter - no more, it would just be that, our freindship would remain and we'd both have fun. Shes done it before and I just don't know what to do - we're doing it next week. What posisiton is best?? When do you put the condom on, what foreplay is best etc? If you can help please let me know ASAP!

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Deej,
I think if you're anxious about the prospect of sex with this girl, the best thing you can do is spend more time talking it over with her. Find out the facts together, or search TheSite for info first, and learn to relax with each other. That way you're more likely to enjoy a safer sex session when it happens, rather than stiffening up in all the wrong places <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/redface.gif">)

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Speaking from a womans point of view I like it when a man kisses my neck and my body this gets me very "wet" and ready for sex. Explore her body but be gentle and when your erection is at its strongest carefully put on the condom and if you are unsure or need help don't be afraid to ask her to put it on for you as this can actually IMPROVE your sexual experience and when she is ready for you to "go in" she will let you know.<P class="body">I hope this was of help and let me knoe how you get on!<P class="body">Good Luck!

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Jessy

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Hi,<P class="body">Ok I'm new here. Quick intro... my name is Ian, I'm 26 and single.<P class="body">I'd just like to add my 2p worth on this guy who's still a virgin. In short don't worry, I'm still a virin, well sort of... it's a bit complex. <P class="body">Don't be in a hurry to lose it, I know the temptation is pretty wild for a man (don't know about girls!) but don't unless you want to and you know the full emotional effects your going to feel and indeed this girl is going to feel. <P class="body">You have to know each other well and be relaxed, otherwise it's just sex and neither of you will be satisfied. Remember it will play with your emotionas, even if you both have the best of intent.<P class="body">I guess what I'm saying is you shouldn't have to plan it, i.e you lay here and I do what :-) it should be a natural thing between to people that love each other.
Ok... that's a bit old hat but you won't hurt so much in the future if you get it right now :-)<P class="body">Cheers,<P class="body">Ian.

Former Member

Deej - I think that u want to have sex with this girl just for the sake of doing it. Thats not a good idea, I think u will find that if u find someone you genuinely like as more than a friend it will be much easier. <P class="body">Cornflake!

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Deej,
Are you sure you aren't doing this cos you don't wana feel left out about still being a virgin? Trust me no matter how embarassed/bad you feel bout being a virgin you will feel a LOT worse if you sleep with her for the sake of sleeping with her, trust me, a few of my mates have been there, done that and regreted like hell afterwards.
I kinda did the same thing but for other reasons as well, I kinda rushed into it with my boyfriend and I did feel bad/ guilty/used about it afterward and that was when I was in a proper relasionship with the guy.
Anyway the best sex is the sort that happens naturally. If you do go ahead just have lotsa foreplay, be gentle and loving and don't act like you just wana shag- take evrything slowly and enjoy it!
Think before you make your mind up
~Sc~

Former Member

May sound funny from a girl who lost her virginity at 15, but there is nothing wrong about being a 20 yo virgin.

Some good points have been made by other, so just a summary: why don't you concentrate on playing with each other: foreplay, mutual masturbation etc. That way you are likely to enjoy it more.