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I've just split with my gf of a few years, well gone on a break (basically a split) I'm feeling rather down at the moment understandably but I don't know what's going on. I'm trying to spend as much time with my friends atm just to keep my mind off it. Any advice?
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Spending time with your mates works, and sometimes talking about it helps.
Bit of a bugger if it's been a few years though, hope all works out :thumb:
I've always found that spending a bit of time alone was a good thing, as long as I always had plans with people that meant if I went into moping-mode I couldn't very well stay there as my friends would've throttled me A good balance between fun and recovering from the loss of your relationship is a key thing -- and will hopefully help you realise whether you want to go back to the relationship once again, or make a fresh start. Whatever you decide, I wish you the best of luck with it mate :thumb:
The moment you have too much time on your hands, your mind will start to dwell on her, wondering what she is doing, where she is, how she is coping, does she feel as desolute as you, etc
You need to rediscover that there IS life after a relationship and all those things that relationships sometimes hinder (e.g. spontaneous trips away, spending quality time with friends etc) are now open to you again.
Although you may take ages to really get over her, stay positive and realise that you can make new opportunities for yourself and that this period can be very exciting ...