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got a plan? is it a date? what to do? arghhh
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Alright me mateys,
I'm in a pretty good mood cuz a girl I have liked for a while has asked me to go to the cinema with her, just me and her.
The thing is, I'm really good friends with her, however she has never suggested for us to go to the cinema together. A bit of background:
A week or so ago I got really stoned at a field party, I said if any guys gave her or her friend a bit of grief, then I would pretend to be their boyfriend.
Anyway, the girl I like said, after a while I'll be your girlfriend, I don't know how serious she was, as I was quite stoned. The next time I saw her in person she asked to go to the cinema. She's been acting quite quiet online, and reasonably close in person, going places with me etc. Shes done this before but she seems very close now.
How should I manage the situation, I mean I would love to go out with her properly and I think I should make a move, but how and what to do? It would be great if you guys could help me come up with an action plan for tomorrow night.
In the last year, she has hated the idea of a relationship. She seems to be changing however and recently keeps telling me how awesome I am (haha, yeah...) anyway. I really like her alot, and I know she likes me as a friend, I am just uncertain if it could ever be more than that?
I'm in a pretty good mood cuz a girl I have liked for a while has asked me to go to the cinema with her, just me and her.
The thing is, I'm really good friends with her, however she has never suggested for us to go to the cinema together. A bit of background:
A week or so ago I got really stoned at a field party, I said if any guys gave her or her friend a bit of grief, then I would pretend to be their boyfriend.
Anyway, the girl I like said, after a while I'll be your girlfriend, I don't know how serious she was, as I was quite stoned. The next time I saw her in person she asked to go to the cinema. She's been acting quite quiet online, and reasonably close in person, going places with me etc. Shes done this before but she seems very close now.
How should I manage the situation, I mean I would love to go out with her properly and I think I should make a move, but how and what to do? It would be great if you guys could help me come up with an action plan for tomorrow night.
In the last year, she has hated the idea of a relationship. She seems to be changing however and recently keeps telling me how awesome I am (haha, yeah...) anyway. I really like her alot, and I know she likes me as a friend, I am just uncertain if it could ever be more than that?
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I find that I can. Probably the feelings aren't that strong to begin with, I just get on well with them and find them attractive. But once I rule out anything romantic I can easily move to just being friends, find someone else to crush on.
The feelings just go away. I remember when I was in highschool I fell hopelessly for girls without even going out with them once. But now I really don't fall very deeply unless we're actually going out proper.
Can be quite hard, but sometimes I just get a thing when the main priority is wanting the other person to be really happy, rather than wanting them to be your girlfriend. Of course you still want to go out with them, but if not then you know it's alright because you've connected with them and it's all cool - so long as they don't change or stop talking to you if they do go with somebody else.
Easier said than done, but I suppose it beats jealousy.
Good luck, let us know how it goes. Try go with the flow rather than make a plan. Being flexible is important - you have to pay attention to how she acts mostly. Is it different to usual? Ooh, and make sure you compliment her outfit /hair etc. Like, a *proper* compliment. Not a 'hey, nice necklace', but 'wow, you look really beautiful, that colour brings out your eyes' kinda thing - a sure-fire way to make it date-like.
she blew the cinema off, to watch football at the pub, but invited me along. I got the idea, so was just friendly. Then a party appeared and we went...
She was around me alot and kept trying to make physical contact with me, at which i felt uneasy because I didnt know if it was a sign. She also asked me who i liked and I said something along the lines of um er um nobody really, a few i would consider. she said the same when i asked her.
Then when she went to get her bus she asked me to walk her. I obliged and on the way she asked me if I was sleeping over at the party and I said yeah, because I couldnt go back to my house. She paused for a bit and said come round to mine, and I was a bit taken aback and converted it into a friend type thing (stupidly) like yeah we can watch tv or something. but i said i couldnt because her parents were in. she then asked if she could come over to mine, maybe at the same time as going to the cinema (she rearranged it). I then got a text later that night saying thanks for walking me to the bus stop, see you tomorow.
hard to judge really, as she was under the influence of alcohol. I'm crap at this kinda thing.