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too tight for sex
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ok kind of embrassed to ask this one. I've been with my gf for 1month on thursday, we has sex pretty much every night we see each other (if not sex very long periods of foreplay, just to wind eachother up) which is 4-5 night of the week.
Theses two reasons we tend to go more for the foreplay, first we both enjoy this more at the moment than having sex. Secondly we're finding that when i enter her its either hurting her or me. The reason for this is shes very tight. Once i'm past certon point its find but it can be painfull for one or both of us to get past it.
Is there anything we can do to help. our foreplay can last anything from 30mins to 2hours before we have sex. Without meaning to sound nasty, by which time she is very wet, and we have no need for lube (we tried it but didn't make a diffance).
Theses two reasons we tend to go more for the foreplay, first we both enjoy this more at the moment than having sex. Secondly we're finding that when i enter her its either hurting her or me. The reason for this is shes very tight. Once i'm past certon point its find but it can be painfull for one or both of us to get past it.
Is there anything we can do to help. our foreplay can last anything from 30mins to 2hours before we have sex. Without meaning to sound nasty, by which time she is very wet, and we have no need for lube (we tried it but didn't make a diffance).
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I think you are probably doing the best thing, loads of foreplay and gradually I'm sure the pain will disapear.
I've had this problem too for a long time with my boyfriend. Whilst things seem to have improved with just having more sex the biggest improvement was on ditching the condoms. Not that I'm suggesting it if that is not appropriate for you two at the moment, I'm just being honest in saying that it was what make such a difference for me and my man.
not that weve tried loads.
We're going to try no to small amount of foreplay first (well move it to after having sex) and see how that goes.
Can she not try and think of the pain in a kinky way?
Any other suggestions
We're both getting used to my PA piecring at the moment, as shes the first person i've had sex with since getting it. and i'm the first person shes had sex with one in. about 3 weeks ago i had to get a larger Dia. ring as the other was too tight. I've been wondering if this might have a bit to do with it as well. I suggested taking it out. but she said she likes it too much for me to get rid of it.
Well the trouble with piercing like the PA is that if the vagina (or the throat) isn't really deep or you are really big it can cause pain (gaggin for throat), sometimes the vagina wll stretch with time... the throat never obviously... I had one I had to remove it... I think it's best to have nothing that keeping it and be careful when at it...
IMO - Each session she will loosen up (as long as you keep with it) and then for the next session she will have tightened a bit again but will looson throughtout the session, until eventually she will stay a bit looser. well thats my theory anyway!
Good luck and youll enjoy it a lot more soon!
but you know how you can sometimes have allergies or intolerances to certyain things, perhaps she might have a slight intolerance to latex condoms, which has been brought on or amplified by other unknown factors
as odd as it sounds, one of the girls that used to work with us at the club i work in, had this very problem, though she always told everyone, at least i knew the story so i could tell you all in here
Thanks for the idea MrG, only we dont use condoms
Yeah, I think thats probably it. It happened to me- it hurt so much each time that I just expected it to hurt the next, and next- hence tensing up.