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Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
hey!
ermmmm, this seems really wierd saying this, but here it goes:
i've bin going out wid my boyfriend for jus over 2 weeks, and i've only known him for about a yr, but not very well. Anyway, I've jus gone on the pill (for health reasons) and he's bein really pushy about havin sex. Well, he's not literally sed that he really really wants me too, but he's being really manipulative, and i don't know whether i shud jus shag him and get it over wid, or make him wait. And on another note, he's all pleased about me bein on the pill coz he says it means he wont have to wear a condom, wot do u think about all that??? <IMG SRC="confused.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"> <img src="null" alt="image">

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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    i think thsi means that he is a wanker!!!!
    sorry but 1stly 2 weeks you shouldnt be thinking about sex after two weeks
    2ndly condoms are important anway becaus ethey not only protect against pregnacys but sti's. my personal opnion on this guy is that he aitn to bothered about you and is obviously just in this for sex and himself no one with any respect for you would treat you like this!
    you might also wnat to look at these links incase they help <IMG SRC="smile.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"> http://www.thesite.org/magazine/sex_and_relationships/rubbish_excuses_for_not_wearing_a_condom.html
    AND NO YOU DEFINATLY SHOULD NOT JUST SHAG HIM !!!!!!

    xx deeby doo xx
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    and welcome to the site <IMG SRC="smile.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
    i just read what i put back and it sounds real harsh sorry im not usually that agrssive!!! <IMG SRC="smile.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">

    xx deeby doo xx
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Although he may be pleased about not having to wear a condom, do you know anything about his previous sexual history? If not, then i suggest you make him wear one anyway. 2 weeks isn't a very long time to be making these kind of decissions, and from what you said above 'should i just shag him and get it over with' makes me think that you don't want to. Only do whats right for you, don't let your bf be pushy, if you make him wait he'll respect you more, and might stop being so manipulative.
    xxhugsxx
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I totally agree with deeby doo and I don't think his message was aggresive, rather justified passion.
    Don't let anyone push you into anything.
    If this is how it treats you, how has he treated girls in the past? Hence how can you trust him? He must wear a condom at the very very least.

    EDIT - SORTED

    [ 31-03-2002: Message edited by: acer ]
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Acer, the last very long sentance in that didn't make sense.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    thanx guys, that's really helped
    i've managed to sort stuff out wid him now, and i realised i'm being really paranoid about all the manipulative stuff, but i'm gona watch him, and he will be wearing a condom! (sorry u probably don't wana know the details)
    And deeby doo, don't worry about wot u sed about him, coz i was sayin exactly the same things for most of today. It's tru!
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