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Well when did i ever disagree with that?!
All i'm saying is if you look anywhere on those like dating websites or what have you, in my opinion they are either ugly or just sound weird, and you can understand why maybe they're having to resort to that.
I never said everyone who hasn't had a relationship is hideous or dire which is what people seem to be getting at.
It's not necessarily resorting to just that. Some people are fed up with meeting people in bars who just want sex, or all their friends have partners so they don't meet anyone new.
I don't see anything wrong in using a dating website although it's better for something to progress naturally. But people are impatient now.
I wonder which I am/was the vast majority or the small minority of good looking single people in there 20's. I never had a relationship until I was 20, but I was happy and I had lots of friends both male and female over the years. I just never found someone who I liked as more then just a friend, who also felt the same way, but I would rather keep them as a friend then try to force them into a relationship.
The other thing that use to happen was that I seemed to get intrest from guys, who I was not intrested in forming a relationship with, so rather then lead them on and get there hopes up I would always tell them that I only saw them as a friend. Ok so it might have hurt tem to hear that, but at least I had not lead them on and told them at a later stage when it would have hurt them more.
Do you people not even read my posts.
I said the vast majority of people i had seen on either dating websites, or like had seen their personal ads were either a) desperate, b) hideous or c) dire.
Never did i say that people who hadn't had relationships were that. People wanna learn to fuckin read.
Nicely put, hun. :thumb:
But as another poster said, Faceparty-type places are good 'cos its relatively cheap (unlike dating sites from what I have heard).
Its not like the olden days any more. People arent the same any more. When you meet someone in a bar its hard to work out what they want, at least if you meet people in a way like on a dating website or from a personal ad, you already know what they want, and you already know what there interests are.
I know that if i had been single for a long time and was fed up or wanted to meet new people or whatever, i wouldnt be ashamed to put an ad in a paper or on a website, its only another way of meeting people, after all.
And to be honest, i dont think its any more desperate than people who go to clubs with the aim of pulling.
You're considering going in to a relationship with baggage? Yowch
Couldn't have said it better myself :thumb:
I've been reading some of your posts, you seem to massively lack self-confidence, are lonely and lack a social life. You seem to be trying everything from sex dolls and prostitutes to personal ads. I think what you need to do is rebuild yourself and get out there and meet people. I know it may seem tough at the moment but you will meet someone special eventually. Why not buy some new clothes, start an exercise regime and consider joining a few clubs or society's where you can meet new people and make friends. You seem to be getting very desperate and wanting sudden results now, take your time, rebuild your life and you will feel better about yourself, your confidence will grow and you will meet people. Good luck