First love finding someone else..

Former Member

Ok, so I broke up with my first love about a year ago on bitter terms. It even felt like we broke up for a stupid reason.. anyway as time went on we tried to be friends but the atmosphere was far too weird and we used to just argue all of the time. So I cut contact with her.

Everything was fine, I went out with my mates, got absolutely smashed every weekend for about 8 months but stayed away from girls because I really couldn't be bothered with anymore heartache.

I thought I was completely over her and generally felt happy, but now I've just found out shes going out with someone else (was passively told by a friend of a friend) and its knocked me back. All those old feelings have come back like when we had just finished and I don't for the life of me know why

I don't even want to get back with her so why does it hurt?

Former Member

losing any love (but your first) is going to hurt. Its a natural thing for feelings to come back if when the person inquestion has found someone else (or at least i had this and all my friends have in the past).

The only thing i can suggest is what people have said to me in the past, continue what your doing, go out with friends, have a laugh, keep busy. It will pass with time. I know thats not always the most helpful thing to say, but its all i can say at the moment.

PS welcome to the boards.

Former Member

As youngbull said, keep doing what you're doing, time is you friend when it comes to borken heart..

Former Member

Nice one lads, it's nice to know I'm not the only one, which is what I was originally worried about I think. I kind of thought that after a year my feelings for her would be completely killed off.

Youngbull - Cheers mate, it's nice to finally come across a board with some intelligent/interesting information.

Former Member

I agree with what Youngbull has said really.

First loves hurt the most. Don't be scared of meeting anyone else though. When I broke up with my first love it hurt like a bitch for about a year. It took me ages to get over him. It takes time. Just keep doing what you are doing, going out having fun and meet new people

You will meet somebody else. Everybody does.

Former Member

Yeah that's true. People have always told me that your first love is the one you remember forever. It's just weird how I was perfectly fine and then back to that evil feeling I had a year ago within a couple of minutes..

I'm feeling loads better now that I've slept on it though.. could have just been the shock of the news.