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dream troubles
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hi guys, i need a little advise or link i can pass on to my girlfriend.
For the past 3months shes been having really bad dreams, of which she remembers in detail. Its now really really getting to her, to the point she said she doesn't want to goto sleep.
She moved to the area about the same time as the dreams started, moving from her mums house into her nan's house. I suggested that it might be that shes still getting used to the whole moving from home. But she doesn't think so as she's happy now than for a long time, more freedom, good job, and i quote "fantasic boyfriend"
From what shes told me, alot of the dreams involue her or a family member dieing, being hanged, beheaded, nailed to a cross. Or they have her on her knees crying with me turning my back on her and walking away (which isn't ever going to happen, been with her for 2weeks and i love her).
Anything anyone can suggest is welcome
For the past 3months shes been having really bad dreams, of which she remembers in detail. Its now really really getting to her, to the point she said she doesn't want to goto sleep.
She moved to the area about the same time as the dreams started, moving from her mums house into her nan's house. I suggested that it might be that shes still getting used to the whole moving from home. But she doesn't think so as she's happy now than for a long time, more freedom, good job, and i quote "fantasic boyfriend"
From what shes told me, alot of the dreams involue her or a family member dieing, being hanged, beheaded, nailed to a cross. Or they have her on her knees crying with me turning my back on her and walking away (which isn't ever going to happen, been with her for 2weeks and i love her).
Anything anyone can suggest is welcome
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Yeah the dreams are really effecting her, she doesn't want to sleep, and when she does she's jumping out of her skin everytime. She fell asleep on my lap yesterday, and was trying to fight someone/thing off, and crying out in pain and tell the person/thing to leave her alone.
We talked alittle about it but she says that she keeps alot of her feeling abd stuff buried, as shes never had anyone she can talk to about them. I'm the only persons she's ever felt safe to talk to. I'm hoping its just that she still settling into her new life.
Btw all of that are just some theories of mine... no saying it is that at all... just trying to find what it might be... or what might be worth looking into...
Got a phone call from her about an 1hour ago while she was on her lunch break. She wants a long talk, she said it wasn't anything bad (but she did ask if i still wanted to be with her. Which i do, more than anything in the world).
I think that she thinks that the dreams might be telling her something about our relationship. As she said if that i still did want to be with her, then she needed to talk and get to the bottom of these dream.
Sorry this is turning into more of a relationships thread now. so might move it over there.
Putting rosemary under your pillow is suposed to help stop bad dreams also you could buy her a dream catcher or worry dolls (little dolls that you tell your worries to before you go to sleep then put them under you pillow and in the morning your worries are gone).
It probably won't stop the dreams but it might help if she believes it.
Other than talking things through and finding out what's causing the worries or feelings that are feeding these dreams I don't know what else to suggest.
Sorry I couldn't help more.