love! what the fucking hell is it?!

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ok, can anyone explain love to me?
ive been wiv alot of boys but i wa not in love with them. but at the moment i think i am in love with some one its a bloody pain in the arse!!!!!!!!
help me please!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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no 1 knows wot love is, i am in love but its so fucked up at the mo thati dunno wot 2 do..............

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i need a book or somthing to help me! its not fair we were given feelings but no bloody instruction book how to ues them its a bloody pain in the arse!!!!!! .......................

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It's impossible to know if you are really in love untill you die, coz it aint love untill it's finished, and it aint finished till your dead. xxx

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Quite a while back we had a thread about this called WOT IS LOVE??? (and it might have been started by Tigerlilly, that rings a bell in my mind) but I can't find it anywhere, if anyone has nothing to do they could look for it....

IMO you know when it's love, not necessarily straight away but after a while, so if you figure that you are in love now I hope it works out for you but if it doesn't just treat it as an experience, it will help you to know what to expect next time it happens <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;

Just out of interest, you say you think you're in love now but you haven't been before - what's different now?

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i still haven't pinned it down yet, but here are some of the things that i think love is:

love is wanting that special someone to the first person you see in the morning and the last before you go to bed.

love is always thinking about her and having a big smile on your face.

love is knowing everything about her and wanting to know more.

love is having everything you see and do remind you of her.

love is feeling forever won't be long enough to spend with her.

love is wondering what ur kids will look like.

love is finding everything she does cute.

love is cherishing every moment you have with her.

love is finding everything she does sexy.

love is a blue toy spear, fish and chips, and a rubber duck named dominic. (susie only)

love is trying raw fish on your birthday. (susie only)

love is finding the same things funny.

love is wanting to hold her and never let go.

love is holding hands.

love is not wanting anything more than another kiss from her.

those are just a few of the things that love is for me. sometimes you just have to be hopeless, it's good for you. <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;

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HI GUYS!!
I'm new on the board so b4 i start writin n e thin i'm gonna in2duce myself. I go by the name of blackbeauty, i live in England and have just turned 18.

AND I HOPE IN TIME I CAN CLASS U ALL AS MY MATES!!

N e ways back 2 the thread, i so need this topic at the moment, i've been with my bf for nearly 6 months now and this is my first serious relationship. I care bout him alot & can't imagine not being with him & some of things Calvin posted r true 2 me 2, like he's the last thing i think bout b4 i go 2 sleep & the 1st person on my mind when i wake. Can't figure out if this is love on not.

1 of my worst fears is neva experiencing love, just hope that neve happens!!!!!!!

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Originally posted by blackbeauty:
HI GUYS!!
I'm new on the board so b4 i start writin n e thin i'm gonna in2duce myself. I go by the name of blackbeauty, i live in England and have just turned 18.

AND I HOPE IN TIME I CAN CLASS U ALL AS MY MATES!!

N e ways back 2 the thread, i so need this topic at the moment, i've been with my bf for nearly 6 months now and this is my first serious relationship. I care bout him alot & can't imagine not being with him & some of things Calvin posted r true 2 me 2, like he's the last thing i think bout b4 i go 2 sleep & the 1st person on my mind when i wake. Can't figure out if this is love on not.

1 of my worst fears is neva experiencing love, just hope that neve happens!!!!!!!

Welcome to thesite <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;
Personally I think that love is a load of bull, however I love Liam so it aint bull in some areas!

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love is complex, confusing and painful

but we still want it.

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hmzmzmzm, been thinking whether I should attempt to scientifically explain love, might as well give it a go <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/biggrin.gif"&gt;

Love is a phsycological dependence which develops through various stages usually beginning with lust. People are drawn to others through either interests or by physical appearence, once connected a bond is formed, known globally as a relationship. As the bond becomes deeper, this usually occuring over a time period and various experiences together, a phsycological occurance develops where the person becomes so used to visually and physically being with the person that they require them for their day to day activity.

... now my head hurts <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/biggrin.gif"&gt;

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Originally posted by Justin Credible:
hmzmzmzm, been thinking whether I should attempt to scientifically explain love, might as well give it a go <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/biggrin.gif"&gt;

Love is a phsycological dependence which develops through various stages usually beginning with lust. People are drawn to others through either interests or by physical appearence, once connected a bond is formed, known globally as a relationship. As the bond becomes deeper, this usually occuring over a time period and various experiences together, a phsycological occurance develops where the person becomes so used to visually and physically being with the person that they require them for their day to day activity.

... now my head hurts <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/biggrin.gif"&gt;

so where'd u copy that from? <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/biggrin.gif"&gt; well done.

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Originally posted by Turtle:
so where'd u copy that from? <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/biggrin.gif"&gt; well done.

Actually I made that up all off the back of my head... I did medical training for a few years so I had some neurochemical tutoring, and basically linked some medical information with the human condition.

Girl-From-Mars

to elaborate onn something turtle said... "love is suicide". .. ~ smashing pumpkins - bodies.

cant be bothered trying to write a proper response now, i wrote one before and it was apparenty kinda good so you can just go and find it yourselves coz im too lazy.

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this is 4 wild child!
soz i aint written back yet but the computers been wank!

i dont know whats different about him! i just hurts when hes not around!

i really do love him. jonathan!!!!!!!!!!

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*If you're not sure whether you're in love or not, you're not in love.
*Even if you think you're in love you may not be in love (i.e. "puppy love")

Take it from someone who has fallen in love way too many times and thought she was in love but really wasn't too many times.
*Be very careful!

"It isn't love if you don't cry" (magnetic fields)....

It's love when it hurts.

Damnit I'm too jaded for being so young.

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Originally posted by amadee:
Damnit I'm too jaded for being so young.

apparently, so am i.

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Love is great, but it can also be filled with TONS of pain. I was in love with a girl and we were going out for 8 months, all of a sudden she changed drastically and I felt pain, ever since that happened I've missed her, cuz i was in so much love with her, but now it seems she's back to her old self again and with time we will most likely be back together. YAY!! <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/biggrin.gif"&gt;

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I dont think love can be pinned down as nething specific cos every1 feels something different when they're in love. I was/still am in love with my ex, I think about him all the time but I dont even know if he feels the same - we're meant to be getting back 2getha afta all the exams but I'm not so sure nemore <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/frown.gif"&gt;

Neway I'm sure u'll know when/if ur in love cos something will just...feel different? If thats how u can describe it lol.

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Originally posted by amadee:
*If you're not sure whether you're in love or not, you're not in love.

True.... but if you try and persuade yourself you can't be in love because you don't want to be.... then you are.

Originally posted by Turtle:
love is complex, confusing and painful
but we still want it.

I agree about it being confusing - I don't even know if I want it any more <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/frown.gif"&gt;

Girl-From-Mars

wildchild... then you get the people who try to convince themself to be in love because they feel like they should be with a particular person... and actually develop feelings. but you cant go talking yourself into being in love, it just happens, if you force it it isnt going to be real.

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love is. it just is. <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/wink.gif"&gt;

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love is a decision that you make.... and it's not..a feeling..cz..for all you know..the feeling could be..indigestion...or....gas!

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if love is gas gurlie, then may i fart forever.

and ok, that didn't come out right, so to speak. <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/tongue.gif"&gt;

[This message has been edited by Calvin (edited 31-05-2001).]

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Originally posted by Calvin:
if love is gas gurlie, then may i fart forever.

and ok, that didn't come out right, so to speak. <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/tongue.gif"&gt;

[This message has been edited by Calvin (edited 31-05-2001).]

*melts* at how romantic calvin is <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt; <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/biggrin.gif"&gt; <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/tongue.gif"&gt;

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i read this somewhere Love u r born with fear u learn the journy to leave fear and c find love again is the meaning of life some crap like that sorry all i really remember is the first part u love anyone u risk getting hurt family, friends, land lovers. but i don't think love is something that can be controlled and also if u have to ask if your in love then your not u just know ( and be careful what u wish for u might get it)

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Originally posted by guRLiE1oo4:
love is a decision that you make.... and it's not..a feeling..cz..for all you know..the feeling could be..indigestion...or....gas!

if you can define love in any way, its definitely NOT a decision. you cant possibly decide who to love. if you could, it would make things a hell of a lot easier! and you wouldnt go falling in love with unavailable people, for whatever reason.

when you're in love, you definitely know. all the cliches about the room lighting up when they're there... feeling all warm and fuzzy inside.. your heart leaping when you see them, pain, so much pain when they dont return the love or when something stands in the way. its very much a feeling, albeit a very strong one, and not a decision in the slightest.

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okay..the reason i said that love is a decision.. is cz like..if ur a christian...u love God and JC..and all that stuff...but you made the choice to love Him..and it's kinda the same w/ people....i allow urself to love some1..and u decide u want to be good for them and stuff..ya know?

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Being IN love is what Calvin describes and thats designed by nature to get two folks together and then you marry and you are no longer IN love but love one another while you handle the crap in each other. This is called EVOLVING and you agree to do it with certain folk (usually one) before you incarnate!

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i cried every night i didn't spend with my boyfriend. now we've split up i cry every day too.

i love him <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/frown.gif"&gt;

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Yeah love is great when the person u love, loves u 2. But if they dont its just shity

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Originally posted by Lady 1:
Being IN love is what Calvin describes and thats designed by nature to get two folks together and then you marry and you are no longer IN love but love one another while you handle the crap in each other. This is called EVOLVING and you agree to do it with certain folk (usually one) before you incarnate!

i think it's very possible to be in love with someone your whole life.