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I'll try and summarise the problem ;p
Basically I started my course back in Sept and the first term was a bit crap.. Thought i'd persavere until this term (we started new modules) and now it's even worse imo ... I can't find the motivation to get any work at all done as I find it really boring ... and then when i get myself round to doing some I don't understand half of it as I haven't paid much attention in the lectures etc...
I don't think I knew what I wanted to do when I came to uni... i just came cos it seemed to sort of follow on from 6th form (and i like holidays )... and I still don't know 100% what i'd enjoy doing, so if i changed course I wouldn't know what to change to... Also I don't wanta leave because most of my m8s that arent at uni atm are all going this september so i'd be stuck working at tesco's or something and feeling like shit probably..
So I could either really try, scrape through to the next year and then hope I start to enjoy it more (while getting into more debt for no return)... quit now and not know what to do, or get kicked out in may/june for not having the grades...
I really feel stuck atm Has anyone else been through something like this or have any idea? help would be appreciated :cool:
Basically I started my course back in Sept and the first term was a bit crap.. Thought i'd persavere until this term (we started new modules) and now it's even worse imo ... I can't find the motivation to get any work at all done as I find it really boring ... and then when i get myself round to doing some I don't understand half of it as I haven't paid much attention in the lectures etc...
I don't think I knew what I wanted to do when I came to uni... i just came cos it seemed to sort of follow on from 6th form (and i like holidays )... and I still don't know 100% what i'd enjoy doing, so if i changed course I wouldn't know what to change to... Also I don't wanta leave because most of my m8s that arent at uni atm are all going this september so i'd be stuck working at tesco's or something and feeling like shit probably..
So I could either really try, scrape through to the next year and then hope I start to enjoy it more (while getting into more debt for no return)... quit now and not know what to do, or get kicked out in may/june for not having the grades...
I really feel stuck atm Has anyone else been through something like this or have any idea? help would be appreciated :cool:
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i would have a think about what subjects you enjoyed at school, what types of subjects you were good at e.g creative, maths, science, reading. and then have a read of some in the module handbook.
but definitely go speak to your personal tutor.
i'll think about what you said ... just going to my tutor they'd ask questions that i can't answer (what do u want to do about it etc)...
I just need time to think with no work pressure, so i can just sort of be totally relaxed... I just feel drained nearly all the time atm, it's hard to concentrate on stuff and keep happy ;p
Maybe i'll go through till easter and try and get myself sorted then
I appreciate the ideas a lot though, cheers.
in the end i chose a new course, totally different to what i was doing and at the other end of the country and i absolutely love it.
it's hard to know what you want to do, i think very few people are completely certain but if you know you dont want to do this, then dont. if you're not enjoying it now its not very likely you'll suddenly start to in the future.
the only thing to do really is to look at loads of different options... maybe try and do some volunteering in different areas you feel you may be interested in, read up on different courses, different jobs etc and see if anything appeals to you.
do you know what sort of area you want to do something in? even broadly? you know, like media or business or retail or teaching or sport... because that would be a good start.
id talk to your personal tutor anyway, mine last year was very good. firstly he made me really think about why i didnt like the course - if it really was the actual content or if it was because of other reasons. and then he helped me work out what things i was good at, what things i wouldnt mind doing and put me in touch with people i could talk to.
So did you just re-apply through UCAS after the summer that you left?
And also thinking about what you said about stuff I enjoy... I used to be a pretty decent student (got all the work done/good grades) up until about year 10... then after that I sort of stopped enjoying most of the work and realy found it hard to motivate myself to get any homework done etc... I keep thinking maybe if im more enthusiastic about the course and put loads of effort in then maybe i'd get to enjoy it... anyway i don't know where im going with this lol :P
I'm sure i could think of something I'd enjoy doing a degree in..takes time to realise i guess ;p
Oh... on a random sidenote, did you actually have much contact with your tutor before you decided to leave? I really never speak to mine unless i've missed a class, nd thats only an e-mail...
Anyway, thx for showing what you went through, gives me a sort of idea of what to do i spose
if i hadnt done that the other thing i was going to do was to take a year out, maybe do a bit of travelling, try out a few different jobs to think about what i really wanted to do. it does take time to realise. when i first went to uni i was convinced that was what i wanted to do but it wasnt... sometimes it just works out that way.
also, maybe uni isnt for you. if you ask me, too many people nowadays feel they have to go to uni and have to get a degree which i dont think is right. yes, for certain careers you have to and i guess a degree is always useful but i know plenty of people who dont have a degree, who started work full time after school and are doing well for themselves and love it. so maybe look into jobs as well as other uni courses.
i guess if you were more enthusiastic you might like it but its kinda like a circle - you have to like the course in the first place to be able to be enthusiastic about it!
and no, i hadnt had that much contact at all with my tutor. id exchanged a few emails if id missed a class and then sent a few saying i wasnt that happy but that was it. it was fine though, i just went along for a chat one day and he was more than happy to help. they want you to be happy and to enjoy being there so they should be helpful.