Virginity losing

Former Member

Hey,
OK, i know this has probably been discussed loads of times already, but as we keep getting new peeps, i thought it'd be ok to bring it up again so they can have their say without being yelled at for bringing up old topics.

Basically I have been with my boyfriend for 5 and a half months now, I'm 15, he's 16, and we are both ready for sex. We are going to talk about it at the weekend, but first I was just wondering if any of you have any advice? Like about what contraception to use, where could be a good place... just general tips for making it special and nice.
Thanks,
Cara
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Former Member

hey cara. i wont start lecturing about the whole underage thingy...(But u r) condoms are good to use but make sure u know how to use them properly. it might be good to consider goin in the pill too, just in case of any accidents, like it bursting or sumthing. as 4 the place, u shud wait till one of u have a free house cause the last thing u want is a fear that sumones gonna walk in or partys r never good either. as 4 clubs, if its ur first time u dont want it to b rushed!u shud be able to enjoy it!

Former Member

Like about what contraception to use- the condom will be easiest to get hold of by then and if you start having regular sex and trust that neither of you have an STI or anything, you could think about going on the pill.

where could be a good place... I tend to sway towards the bed idea here.. If it's at one of your houses do it when you know your family isn't going to come right back! And if that's going to be difficult to arrange you could try a friends house (providing they are mature about it) othertwise you could like.. uh.. a certain occasion in neighbours springs to mind froom ages ago when they went in a garage. Heehee.

just general tips for making it special and nice.. The most special experience i have had was when we were having the lights on/lights off conversation I wanted them off and we made a compromise and he lit some candles. I know it sounds cliche but they are really romantic and nice. Also dont rush. Make sure you have time to take things slowly and sort of....explore??

Hope this helps and good luck!! Love freya xxx


Oh and, look i'm from devon too!! Can I ask whereabouts??

Former Member

I know I am underage, thanks! But i know what you mean... I think I would like to go on the Pill first to be honest, I think I will talk to him about it. Do you get it from the doctors surgery? Cos if I have it on my repeat prescription form then my parents are bound to end up seeing it... Can you get it from places like the Youth Enquiry Service?

Oh and, I live near Plymouth freya, you?

Girl-From-Mars

i agree on the candles idea. and i think beds are generally a safe bet.

yeah the pill is a repeat prescription, but you can hide it from your mum if you get it yourself. you can get it from family planning clinics and brook centres and stuff i know that..

freya's exeter if she doesnt get here herself first to answer your Q <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;

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Nice that you remembered <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/wink.gif"&gt;

And candles are lovvelly.. I'm sure I wouldn't think of it as it would seem almost too obvious and .. well cheesy and cliche. But when he lit candles for me it was so - nice of him!

Former Member

There are no repeat prescriptions coz u actually have to go and see the doctor every 6 months for blood pressure. the first lot only lasts 3 months...........

Former Member

hey again cara. the thing is i think if ur gonna go on the pill u shud sit down and tell ur parents, just in case u have any bad side effects. it wud be good to talk to sumone about it too though. if u really dont want them to know u could go to a family planning clinic, they r always pretty helpful! <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;

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Merci beaucoup (arg french test tomorrow)
I think you may be right about telling parents, however I really don't think my mum would understand, she is very anti-men at the moment due to my dad's crap treatment of her. this means she worries that i'll get used like she does, and is pretty against me even having a boyfriend. so i don't think she'd be to happy to hear that we're thinking of sleeping together. but family planning clinic sounds like a good idea. <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;

Cheers babes,
luv y'all,
Cara