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hand job and blow job both hurt...
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my girlfirend and i took a big step today.
but i am afraid that i ruined it all. She tried to give me a hand job but it didn't feel good, actually it was just sort of numb like she was touching me with clothing inbetween (which she was not). When i told her that it wasn't really doing anything she started to go down on me and it didn't get much better, i could not feel anything at all, and after about 5 minutes i told her that i couldn't. And that she was great but i couldn't feel anything.
It was not her fault, but what did i do wrong? Why did that happen. I had quite the erection (a *very* big and pokey one) before we started with it. Could that be why? Any tips for the future?
but i am afraid that i ruined it all. She tried to give me a hand job but it didn't feel good, actually it was just sort of numb like she was touching me with clothing inbetween (which she was not). When i told her that it wasn't really doing anything she started to go down on me and it didn't get much better, i could not feel anything at all, and after about 5 minutes i told her that i couldn't. And that she was great but i couldn't feel anything.
It was not her fault, but what did i do wrong? Why did that happen. I had quite the erection (a *very* big and pokey one) before we started with it. Could that be why? Any tips for the future?
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She doesn't know what stimulates you the most... you know all the right spots, when to go faster, when to slow down, how much pressure to apply... all this is totally weird to girls!
I remember the first hand job I gave completely freaked me out, my ex had to make me stop. Now I feel more comfortable doing it and the more comfortable I am, the more I pay attention to what's turning my boyfriend on and what isn't.
Just tell her what you like, show her what to do... maybe put your hand over hers and guide her a little. Make sure you tell her that it's ok, it's not her fault. Maybe some lotion to lubricate you would help.
(Does it usually take guys 5 minutes to come when masturbating? If I feel like it I cancome in a minute max, or in 20 minutes...)