strippers!

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k this is a question for the girls ...im just wonderin how many of you would be ok with your boyfriend going 2 a party with his mates where there would be strippers??

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im a male, but surely this is a trust issue...

i'd happily let a girlfriend of mine to go and see male strippers...wouldnt bother me one bit

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I dont care if he goes and sees strippers with his friends. He has many times before and I'm sure he will still. Besides, when he comes home after seeing naked chicks he's really after sex

Skive

My sister has just started workign for the local lap dancing club. Her bloke doesn't mind one bit.
I don't think I'd mind my bird dancing either.

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I wouldn't mind if she went to watch strippers.

I would mind if she was one. Some things are for my eyes alone.

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no i wouldn't mind if a bf of mine went to see strippers, might feel a bit funny about them having a 'personal' dance or something but if you trust them there should be no problem. plus, they're only allowed to look and not touch aren't they?

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Absolutely wouldn't mind at all.

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i wouldnt b able to let my guy without worryin cuz i no hed prob end up sleepin wit her!!!

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superchick45 wrote:

i wouldnt b able to let my guy without worryin cuz i no hed prob end up sleepin wit her!!!

Unlikely.

He may want to, but strippers don't tend to touch clients.

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superchick45 wrote:

i wouldnt b able to let my guy without worryin cuz i no hed prob end up sleepin wit her!!!

so you're going out with him because....?

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lucifer devil wrote:

so you're going out with him because....?

thats what i wondered :rolleyes:

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lucifer devil wrote:

so you're going out with him because....?

Because he wouldn't and she's paranoid.

That or she is 14 and loves a bit of drama in her life, like so many teeny girls do.

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If I can't say owt nice, I'll say nothing at all.

That'll keep me quiet. Haha.

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i dont think it would bother me.
However it would have very definitely have bothered me if my ex had gone to one, but i never did feel very secure in that relationship.

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Kermit wrote:

Because he wouldn't and she's paranoid.

That or she is 14 and loves a bit of drama in her life, like so many teeny girls do.

thats also what i thought....the name,text speak....also paranoia that her guys gonna be banging a stripper as soon as he looks at her
if you cant trust a guy theres no point in being with him

Skive

kathryn wrote:

I'd have a problem with it because i don't like the idea of my bf going to a place designed to tempt him, men go to strip clubs to see naked woman, thats what they are for, and in my opinion if you have a bf or gf you shouldnt be actively looking for other men/woman. I know he wouldnt sleep with them, but theres a big difference between noticing an attratcive girl on the street/in a club or whatever and picking and then paying one to get naked and tease you rotten.

I do know his mates go to strip clubs, they went to one the other week for a laugh and ended up spending a stupid amount of money on private dances and it did worry me because he probably would have liked to go along to be part of the boys night out, he was out with me at teh time anyway and didnt know where they were heading, but it did make me wonder if hed have gone along if the situation had been different.
If it was for an occasion a birthday or whatever and by not going he was going to miss out i think i could just about cope with it, but i have to admit whilst i wouldnt be worrying whilst he was there i know next time we were together id feel very insecure getting naked or having sex knowing hed recently seen a much more attractive girl naked.
And under no circumstance would he be allowed to pay for a private dance. Thats one thing we have discussed, being in the strip club, seeing semi naked girls walking around, chatting to them, even watching a floor show if there was one, with all his mates would be just about ok, but shelling out money to have all the extras is totally out of line, and he knows this. I think i'd actually break up with him if he did it considering he knows how id feel about it.

Would you be upset if watched porn?

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kathryn wrote:

I'd have a problem with it because i don't like the idea of my bf going to a place designed to tempt him, men go to strip clubs to see naked woman, thats what they are for, and in my opinion if you have a bf or gf you shouldnt be actively looking for other men/woman. I know he wouldnt sleep with them, but theres a big difference between noticing an attratcive girl on the street/in a club or whatever and picking and then paying one to get naked and tease you rotten.

I do know his mates go to strip clubs, they went to one the other week for a laugh and ended up spending a stupid amount of money on private dances and it did worry me because he probably would have liked to go along to be part of the boys night out, he was out with me at teh time anyway and didnt know where they were heading, but it did make me wonder if hed have gone along if the situation had been different.
If it was for an occasion a birthday or whatever and by not going he was going to miss out i think i could just about cope with it, but i have to admit whilst i wouldnt be worrying whilst he was there i know next time we were together id feel very insecure getting naked or having sex knowing hed recently seen a much more attractive girl naked.
And under no circumstance would he be allowed to pay for a private dance. Thats one thing we have discussed, being in the strip club, seeing semi naked girls walking around, chatting to them, even watching a floor show if there was one, with all his mates would be just about ok, but shelling out money to have all the extras is totally out of line, and he knows this. I think i'd actually break up with him if he did it considering he knows how id feel about it.

but surely if you trust him..?

sure it wouldn't be nice to think of a boyfriend being teased like anything, but if you know they're only looking and wouldn't do anything.

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hm, well i personally wouldn't like the idea of some girl teasing my boyfriend (if i had one) i would trust him totally but i'd feel abit funny knowing he was getting turned on and enjoying someone else flounce themselves infront of him
but maybe its because im still young and probably a wee bit insecure still, i wouldn't be too bothered if it was a big group of lads out on a stag night or something, but if it was just a small group of them i probably would

porn though....it'd depend on the kind of porn

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This just sounds like another case of a girl being completely overprotective and considering it grounds for immediate termination of relationship if a guy even looks at another girl.

Original poster - you've got trust issues. What's possibly wrong with it. I wouldn't mind if Mrs. T went out to a strip club nor would she mind were I to go. It's not like he's going to a brothel. Just a bit of eye candy. It's like girls who get annoyed that their guys watch porn. It's just a bit of entertainment.

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Ballerina wrote:

thats also what i thought....the name,text speak....also paranoia that her guys gonna be banging a stripper as soon as he looks at her
if you cant trust a guy theres no point in being with him

You can like someone enough to see them without trust being a pre-requisite for a relationship.

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Spliffie wrote:

You can like someone enough to see them without trust being a pre-requisite for a relationship.

well if your insecure, then whats the point if you dont trust them?

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even if there isnt trust, that doesnt mean its easy to let go of someone when theres love involved.

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kathryn wrote:

a much more attractive girl naked.

This is debatable from what I've heard.

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Ballerina wrote:

well if your insecure, then whats the point if you dont trust them?

Well, trusting someone doesn't mean they're not going to cheat, and not trusting someone doesn't mean they're going to cheat either.

If you like someone but don't trust them 100% then i don't see a problem...you might be surprised.

You live and learn whichever way it goes.

Also, unless your bf/gf properly loves you, there's always going to be other people who catch their interest.

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kathryn wrote:

I'd have a problem with it because i don't like the idea of my bf going to a place designed to tempt him, men go to strip clubs to see naked woman, thats what they are for, and in my opinion if you have a bf or gf you shouldnt be actively looking for other men/woman. I know he wouldnt sleep with them, but theres a big difference between noticing an attratcive girl on the street/in a club or whatever and picking and then paying one to get naked and tease you rotten.

I do know his mates go to strip clubs, they went to one the other week for a laugh and ended up spending a stupid amount of money on private dances and it did worry me because he probably would have liked to go along to be part of the boys night out, he was out with me at teh time anyway and didnt know where they were heading, but it did make me wonder if hed have gone along if the situation had been different.
If it was for an occasion a birthday or whatever and by not going he was going to miss out i think i could just about cope with it, but i have to admit whilst i wouldnt be worrying whilst he was there i know next time we were together id feel very insecure getting naked or having sex knowing hed recently seen a much more attractive girl naked.
And under no circumstance would he be allowed to pay for a private dance. Thats one thing we have discussed, being in the strip club, seeing semi naked girls walking around, chatting to them, even watching a floor show if there was one, with all his mates would be just about ok, but shelling out money to have all the extras is totally out of line, and he knows this. I think i'd actually break up with him if he did it considering he knows how id feel about it.

Your boyfriend already fantasies about fucking other women every day, so whether he visits a strip club or watches porn is pretty irrelevent.

Naked women are everywhere. There's no avoiding it :thumb: .

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Spliffie wrote:

Your boyfriend already fantasies about fucking other women every day, so whether he visits a strip club or watches porn is pretty irrelevent.

Naked women are everywhere. There's no avoiding it :thumb: .

that was abit irrelevant....
my point was, its not the fact if your partner would cheat or not, if you're insecure and constantly worrying about it - then i don't see much point in the relationship unless you work on improving

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I know of a stripper and she was definitely not hired because she is perfect. big tits? yes. sexy? no.

I'd probably be a bit iffy if I had a bloke wanting to watch strippers, but the chances of him cheating on me with one would be something I would think is very very unlikely so I'd not refuse him to because I was feeling slightly uneasy about it.

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Oh no, there are far more raunchy strip clubs than there are nice ones. You do not have to be sexy or anything. Your tits can sag, you can have wrinkles, cellulite farms, whatever. I've seen some real bad ones But then again there are some very sexy, i'm jelous of their body strippers too. And always the butterfaces.

And to the jelous girls, why dont you just join your men at the strip joints, you can keep an eye on them then
Sometimes me and my guy, his friends and their wives, we'll all take a trip to a strip joint. Quite a nice one too. They have a law in this county where if the estableshment sells liquer the women can't go full naked, so the place thats most popular is a place called diamonds. You are welcome to bring your own alcohol, and that premits the women to take it all off. Its a great time for the guys to have some fun, and the girls to have a few drinks and just gossip. Its fun and sexy, because as I said, once you go home, they want it bad and its great

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kathryn wrote:

And under no circumstance would he be allowed to pay for a private dance. Thats one thing we have discussed, being in the strip club, seeing semi naked girls walking around, chatting to them, even watching a floor show if there was one, with all his mates would be just about ok, but shelling out money to have all the extras is totally out of line, and he knows this. I think i'd actually break up with him if he did it considering he knows how id feel about it.

That's assuming he wants the extras....

My boyfriend went along to a few strip clubs on a mate's stag night a few months back. Of the half dozen or however many of them were at the do, my bf was the only one who didn't have any private dances - even when one of the others offered to pay! His reasoning was not out of any consideration for me however, and he had a good laugh on the night, it was simply that, as he said, he couldn't imagine anything less sexy than having a girl who was clearly bored out of her skull gyrating over him.

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I wouldn't mind at all (if I had a boyfriend that is)

Skive

Meryn wrote:

he couldn't imagine anything less sexy than having a girl who was clearly bored out of her skull gyrating over him.

My sister doesn't find it boring. Infact she loves it, and so do the rest of here work mates apparently.

kathryn wrote:

My boyfriend has been to strip clubs before we met and told me what goes on in these places, you can see just about anything you want

No you can't.

kathryn wrote:

i know next time we were together id feel very insecure getting naked or having sex knowing hed recently seen a much more attractive girl naked.

Then surely that's partly your problem. Would he get insecure if you had a dildo bigger than he is?

He wouldn't be going out with you if he didn't fancy you.