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Fear of Change
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My girlfriend got her hair coloured the other day but the way she talked about it the day before just sounded like a completely different person and i freaked out because it got into my head that she would change as well.
And now its done and she doesnt look all that much different because the colour is barely noticable but i still feel like im with a different person and when i think of her its the same problem
And now i dunno what to do because i want to be with her but my head keeps trying to tell me its not her no matter how much my heart tells me it is...
:nervous: :nervous: :nervous:
And now i dunno what im supposed to do, any help or shared experience would be great please
And now its done and she doesnt look all that much different because the colour is barely noticable but i still feel like im with a different person and when i think of her its the same problem
And now i dunno what to do because i want to be with her but my head keeps trying to tell me its not her no matter how much my heart tells me it is...
:nervous: :nervous: :nervous:
And now i dunno what im supposed to do, any help or shared experience would be great please
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I was going to agree, but then i thought about it...maybe she's decided to re-invent herself or something and the hair change is a step on that path?
its just the way that it all got into my head and i spent most of friday shaking under the idea that she was going to be a different person when i next saw her. i know it sounds kinda stupid but it shook me up pretty badly and she even sounded like a differnet person when i saw her afterwards.
Now THAT is something i didnt need to hear...
:crying:
I think you should relax, you take everything really seriously and blow it out of proportion, which itself doesn't help.
i think you're being abit paranoid
:yes:
especially if it look loads better. does wonders for your self-confidence.
i have had my hair every colour of the rainbow while i've been with my blokey, and i've not changed a bit. much as he would like me too.
:mad: :grump: :impissed: :shocking: (<--you for giving that kinda 'support')
yeh your right i guess and i do tent to overreact on these things but i love her much the way she is its just kinda hard to accept. And yes, i am paranoid (but thats not to say they arn't after me!)
In truth today was good and i got through it feeling better cos we spent some time together and you're all right she isnt any different and she is more confident if anything. And im not just saying this cos you all wanna hear me say it or beause i hate to be wrong.
But i still prefered the hair as before.
Don't worry about her dying her hair. Don't stop her, or try to control her like that because it's not nice. If she is doing these things to improve her self confidence, then great! Enjoy it and enjoy her for who she is, not for her hair colour. She isn't going to dump you over a bottle of hair dye unless you make it into an issue that isn't there. Ok?
KHSS x
:yes: LMAO. Agreed.
I think your being a little paranoid dear....