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a guys weight: does it matter?

Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
Hi I am 6'3 and weigh 18 stone, which isn't all muscle, I have a beer gut and that. Well I want to have sex with my girl for the first time pretty soon but I am scared of how she will react to my body, as she is on;y 5'2 and weighs 7.5stone. Her ex was a good looking bloke, 5'11 and 12 stone and was into the gym, so you can imagine my predicament, will she think I am too fat to pleasure her, will she think of her ex while she is with me? help I need it!!!!

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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    18 stone aint that bad for your height, thats if you are 6"3, I am 6"2 and 13 stone, but im puttin weight on.
    Has she seen you with no top on yet? Maybe you should get her used to the idea of that first. If she has seen you and not commented then you are probably fine.


  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Well, my boyfreind is very paranoid about his body too. Even though weve been together a year,he still gets very embarraced.He thinks he's too thin,but i think he's absolutly perfect! I have a male freind who is over weight, but the laydee's love him! And like he says "I might have a little willy,but i have 15 stone to bang it in with!" I dont think that apperence is that much of an issue when it comes to women choosing a man. Just think yourself as a sex god & she will see you that way too! Good luck!
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Hi m8

    could u borrow a short arse like me some height please ? <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/biggrin.gif">. I'm well into the gym, but i'll never be tall will I, atleast you can get in shape !

    be yourself, she obviously fell for who you are, not what you look like as she hasnt seen u you yet.

    why not start some gentle exercise now, for your own peace of mind and confidence, no-one elses.


    [This message has been edited by Sid (edited 14-05-2001).]
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by Alley:
    "I might have a little willy,but i have 15 stone to bang it in with!

    lmfao! for some reason, that HAS to be said in a scottish accent. powerslave? <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt; cmon, u know it's tru.

    since none of the weights actually MEAN anything to me (kilos, PLEASE!) i can't offer specific advice.

    i'm 6'1", 75kg, and i'm pretty happy with my body, cept i reckon i need more muscle.

    if ur girl loves u, then yeah, u should be fine.

    of course, im guessing she aint seen u with ur top off, since she lives all the way over in newcastle. how u gonna have sex with her, if u aint even sure if ur gonna go up to the tyne?

    Look into these tired eyes. See something you might recognise.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I don't think it would be really a problem unless you where like a 29 stone gorrila trying to sleep with a 0.5gram chipmunk...

    If your really concerned, ask her to go on top.. <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I am definately going up there in July, she loves me and I love her, she has told me she wants a cuddly guy and not some poser, so I am happy. a frend of mine posted on here under my name too, talking about sex with a girl, it weren't me <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Put it this way..if you're seeign her she must like you for your persoanlity and looks. so it doesn't matter........ (i hate it when blokes say that they wouldn't DO a fat girl).......sad!!
  • the_Paranoid_bunnythe_Paranoid_bunny Posts: 487 Listening Ear
    if shes with you then theres got to be something in your favour more so than certain other males!!! it doesnt matter what size ew are ....if shes with you and she wants sex...your obviously alright.!!i personally DO NOT CARE what size my boyfreind/lover is or was .its who he is that makes him so attractive....and trust me kindness, gentleness, is the best way to go.....try to get hyped up..a bit of confidence always helps..!!!but not over confident!!ok
    youll be fine!!!!
    if were talking about love,theres something i should tell you...dear reader..
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I'm a bloke and I'm worried too. I'm 5'10 and weigh 17 stone I'm unhappy like this. But also more recently my girlfriend doesnt want to do any thing intimate with me no sex heavy petting if i'm lucky i get a quick peck goodnight then she rolls over and sleeps She says she isnt with any one else and that she loves me. She says shes unhappy at the moment but wont talk to me i think its my weight sex use to be over in minutes proberly coz i have no stamina and she doesnt come this makes me unhappy too i dont know what to do. Any advice will be greatly appricaiated thaxs :-)

    Jamie
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Stamina is ok no matter what size you are - sex isn't just penetration, try to spend more time talking and asking questions during foreplay, I find that helps a lot, if your worried about not lasting long, try to concentrate your throughts onto a different subject, and just take your time, sex isn;t a race. as for your size, let her go on top, or enter from behind, you'll be fine <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by King_Goonie_2001:
    as for your size, let her go on top, or enter from behind, you'll be fine <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;

    See now you're giving advice on your own topic!! You know that she must love you to be with you, and your apperance isn't an issue to her!!!

    Take your own advice, and all will be well!! <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/biggrin.gif"&gt; <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/biggrin.gif"&gt;

    I thoud I saw a puddycat, I did, I did see a puddycat!!
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