Is this my fault?

Former Member

Hey,

The bloke Im seeing at the mo is great in bed but never cums during sex, i always have to finish him off afterwards...am i doing something wrong??

Former Member

you're better off asking him tbh

Former Member

Probably not, tbh.

Is he on any medication? Is he inexperienced? is he stressed?

I couldn't come through penetration when I was on Prozac, for instance.

Former Member

well he's the only one who can really say, we can only assume

Former Member

thanks for your replies, i prob should ask him really, just a bit embarrassed to! He's very experienced, not stressed and not on medication!! At first i thought he was just trying to make me cum first by going longer but its happened every time now and im not so sure...

Former Member

Well if you're close enough to sleep with him; you must be close enough to discuss the problem.

If you're not, then it might be an idea to re-consider what you're doing.

Former Member

'Well if you're close enough to sleep with him; you must be close enough to discuss the problem.'

I know!


I just wanted to find out if anyone had had a similar experience and could tell me if it could be something i was doing before i spoke to him about it (which I will do)

Former Member

I haven't had that problem myself, but it probably will be a delicate area, so be gentle!

Former Member

Some people can get self conscious when they near ejaculation so it stops them, though as kermit said there are other things that might stop him, just ask him. Boys aren't as macho as you may think.

Former Member

hi

First time on the forum here. I'm having a similar problem at the moment. i Slipt from my wife about 4months ago, not had sex for about 4months before that. i've now met someone else who is great, the sex is great, but i cant cum. i get to the point but nothing happens. she being understanding but think she's blaming herself for it.

Former Member

Ok i have a similar problem i cant seem to cum during sex and never have, i found without a condom I can, but i dont like not having one on, thought of kids scares me 22yrs old.

The other problem is my g/f is the same as in she has only ever cum maybe 2x, so we both feel we suck at sex.

We enjoy it alot but after 4-6hrs of banging away, one of us will have to stop either she is starting 2 hurt or i cramp up.

Neither of us are gymnasits but we have tried pretty much every postion and what not and doesnt seem to matter, even done public places, cars, romantic get aways where there is no stress.

I also went to sexual health councling and got checked out by a doctor for a physical problems with my fella, as far as i can tell we both have a mental problem and that stops us.

To top it off we have to lie there and finish are selves off cause no matter what I might do for her or she might do for me, it never works.

Any help ideas would be great as we are both getting down on this issue.