do they love you more?

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do you ever feel that you girlfriend/boyfriend/wife/husband loves you more than you love them?

is it a problem for you? what do you feel about it?

JsT

I feel like I love alcohol more than it loves me

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not a problem for me

sniffle.

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lucifer devil wrote:

not a problem for me

sniffle.

*cuddles*

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JsT wrote:

I feel like I love alcohol more than it loves me

same with money then.

JsT

and pie.

The list is endless ;<

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JsT wrote:

I feel like I love alcohol more than it loves me

Yes.

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I used to feel like that in the early days, he was the first to say "I love you" and I wondered to myself for ages if he hadnt of said it, when would I have said it. Like I said though that was probably within the first 6 months of our relationship, now I know we love each other equally.

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Glittery Vodka wrote:

I used to feel like that in the early days, he was the first to say "I love you" and I wondered to myself for ages if he hadnt of said it, when would I have said it. Like I said though that was probably within the first 6 months of our relationship, now I know we love each other equally.

i know i love him, but sometimes i feel like he loves me more. we've been together 10 months (all but a few days) and i cant imagine not being with him.
did it bother you? did you question if you even loved him at all? im so confused!

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Sometimes I feel like I love him more and sometimes I think he loves me more. Dunno really.

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blonde__batman wrote:

i know i love him, but sometimes i feel like he loves me more. we've been together 10 months (all but a few days) and i cant imagine not being with him.
did it bother you? did you question if you even loved him at all? im so confused!

It bothered me a teeny bit, but that was cos I was wondering if it was all moving too quick. He said I love you, I didnt say it back to him cos he'd said it, I waited til I actually felt it, that way I was more sure about how I did actually feel.

You're probably just a bit overwhelmed with your situation Chelle, tell J how you feel, a problem shared is a problem halved

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Glittery Vodka wrote:

You're probably just a bit overwhelmed with your situation Chelle, tell J how you feel, a problem shared is a problem halved

i told him, and now he doesnt want to see me

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blonde__batman wrote:

i told him, and now he doesnt want to see me

Eeek, what did you say exactly? Hope you're ok.

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I think probably Chelle, you saw too much of him. It was allllll too quick. Too overwhelming, and now that spark is gone, because there's nothing to look forward to. You've done it all in 10 months.

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1983 wrote:

I think probably Chelle, you saw too much of him. It was allllll too quick. Too overwhelming, and now that spark is gone, because there's nothing to look forward to. You've done it all in 10 months.

fair point i think.

also, with you being out of work at the minute i guess do you maybe feel a bit bored and frustrated in general?

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1983 wrote:

I think probably Chelle, you saw too much of him. It was allllll too quick. Too overwhelming, and now that spark is gone, because there's nothing to look forward to. You've done it all in 10 months.

so are you saying, thats it? its finished and cant be revived?

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blonde__batman wrote:

so are you saying, thats it? its finished and cant be revived?

I really don't know. I'm being realistic.

You said you loved each other at around 2 months, got engaged and holidays all in 10 months.

I'm in maybe a month of mine, and I'm nowhere near seeing him everyday, thinking I love him. It'd kill my sanity to have it all compressed. I think because it's it's your first big relationship you flung in the deep end despite you saying you wouldn't.

And I'm not thinking you are horrible for doing this, when you meet someone for the first time who meets your boundaries, your thinking it's AMAZING, and you pile yourself into that person.

But it's came and bit you in the bum. You got bored, you didn't want him because there was nothing to look forward to except the grown up stuff, and you weren't ready for that. There was no new innocent level to climb to.

You'd done it all.

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1983 wrote:

I think because it's it's your first big relationship you flung in the deep end despite you saying you wouldn't.

And I'm not thinking you are horrible for doing this, when you meet someone for the first time who meets your boundaries, your thinking it's AMAZING, and you pile yourself into that person.

But it's came and bit you in the bum. You got bored, you didn't want him because there was nothing to look forward to except the grown up stuff, and you weren't ready for that. There was no new innocent level to climb to.

You'd done it all.

i think you're wrong. im not saying it in a horrible way or anything so i apologise if it comes out like that.
its not my first big relationship. ive had a 15 month serious relationship previously. and im not bored of J, i never said i was.

to be honest, i dont even seem to feel the way i felt wen i originally posted this thread anymore. i think it was hormones messing me about.

i do love him, and i cant wait for the grown up stuff to come along, i dont think im as innocent as people seem to think i am!