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What to do against jealousy?
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Hi,
I'm with my girlfriend for 2 months now and we get along quite well and I've never been the jealous type of guy.
But since we got together and since she told me some stories from her past (we're both 21, her stories are from when she was around 18) I'm getting jealous and sometimes even mad (at myself though) when I think about those things she did. I mean she never cheated on any of her past boyfriends (at least she tells me so) but I know that she flirts and dances (and when she was 18, even slept) with guys for self-esteem.
The thing is that she moved to Maastricht (Netherlands, about 200km away from where I live, so not a big deal) a week ago to study abroad for one term. Of course she's meeting new people there and is kept busy and I'm stuck here being bored and worrying too much.
The problem is that I'm getting more mad at the things she did way back then (sleeping with radom guys just to brag about it in front of her "friends") than at the things she tells me from Maastricht (dancing with guys).
Now since I never (ever!) was jealous before (since with my past girlfriends I was 100% sure that I didn't need to be for some reason ) I don't know how to handle this. I mean I'm sure that there's no reason to be jealous or mad about with my present girlfriend but I just am
Hope you can help me here.
- Felix
I'm with my girlfriend for 2 months now and we get along quite well and I've never been the jealous type of guy.
But since we got together and since she told me some stories from her past (we're both 21, her stories are from when she was around 18) I'm getting jealous and sometimes even mad (at myself though) when I think about those things she did. I mean she never cheated on any of her past boyfriends (at least she tells me so) but I know that she flirts and dances (and when she was 18, even slept) with guys for self-esteem.
The thing is that she moved to Maastricht (Netherlands, about 200km away from where I live, so not a big deal) a week ago to study abroad for one term. Of course she's meeting new people there and is kept busy and I'm stuck here being bored and worrying too much.
The problem is that I'm getting more mad at the things she did way back then (sleeping with radom guys just to brag about it in front of her "friends") than at the things she tells me from Maastricht (dancing with guys).
Now since I never (ever!) was jealous before (since with my past girlfriends I was 100% sure that I didn't need to be for some reason ) I don't know how to handle this. I mean I'm sure that there's no reason to be jealous or mad about with my present girlfriend but I just am
Hope you can help me here.
- Felix
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Im sure this just means you care about your g.f+sorta maybe wish deep down that you're the only guy she's ever dont stuff with - whether it be dancing with, or sleeping with - but that may be only natural bcos u care for her so much!