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dreams vs. reality
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Ok so there are some of us in the world who are known as dreamers. We like to believe in love and romance, adventure and inspirational moments. It doesnt mean we dont appreciate the stability of an everyday life, it just in most cases means we've watched too many films and would quite like to leave everything to fly half way across the world one day just to turn up on someone's doorstep with whom we've had a brief 'moment' with once, and yet it still turn out that they're 'the one'.
We like the idea of getting up one morning and admitting that we want something more, and going to get it, even if it means spending every penny we have on a flight that leaves the same day to somewhere we've never been before, with no plans, no security, no restrictions.
But is it right? Its not meant to be logical because that's the point of being a 'dreamer' - the fact is it's all illogical, but its adventure and who knows what will come of it, good or bad.
But is it a realistic dream? Or are we way too eager to brush these feelings off as just that - 'dreams'.
What would be the pinnacle moment that would force you to make that decision? And would you make it, or would you just carry on in your stable little life with your job and your family and your studies as they are. Or would you 'carpe diem' and think 'fuck it - films come from somewhere - why cant I go for it, even if it isn't the fairytale ending they portray it to be'?
Is it better to live the dream, out in the world with nothing to hold you back, or better to live a life where you cant always have the adventures you want, yet you have the stability of family and money?
We like the idea of getting up one morning and admitting that we want something more, and going to get it, even if it means spending every penny we have on a flight that leaves the same day to somewhere we've never been before, with no plans, no security, no restrictions.
But is it right? Its not meant to be logical because that's the point of being a 'dreamer' - the fact is it's all illogical, but its adventure and who knows what will come of it, good or bad.
But is it a realistic dream? Or are we way too eager to brush these feelings off as just that - 'dreams'.
What would be the pinnacle moment that would force you to make that decision? And would you make it, or would you just carry on in your stable little life with your job and your family and your studies as they are. Or would you 'carpe diem' and think 'fuck it - films come from somewhere - why cant I go for it, even if it isn't the fairytale ending they portray it to be'?
Is it better to live the dream, out in the world with nothing to hold you back, or better to live a life where you cant always have the adventures you want, yet you have the stability of family and money?
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running away for 3 months or so, just for the buzz, leaving everything behind and not thinking about it for 3 months, doing absolutely everything you always wanted to, just to get it out your system. or is it better to stick with what you know, and stay safe?
Seek happiness with, or in spite of, family and money. Some of the hapiest people in the world are poor. Alot of rich people are depressed.
So, in my opinion, neither matters. If you are happy as a dreamer, ok, if you are happy in reality, ok.
Fuck stability ... i like not knowing whats coming round the corner!
You don't have a girlfriend at the moment do you?
No ... what has that to do with anything
I'm just working on the theory that the people who would leave their current life for something else are those with very little to lose.
Also, you said you're not up for commitment in relationships. Women don't like that.
Wow ... I've never heard my life and dreams put in such sad terms!
At the moment, im coming from the standpoint of having spent 9 years of my life building up a family and a home and thinking that was forever, and now my partner deciding there is better things out there and considering fucking off and leaving me. Its killing me inside. Id do anything to keep it together, but if he takes much longer to decide then im not sure if I can be bothered to wait.
Its one thing upping and leaving, but it almost surely wont all be there waiting for you when you get back.
I'm 21. I don't meet the easy women.
Well you're still young ... give it a couple of years yet
In fairness its all down to perspective I suppose - you think of me as having nothing to lose/not understanding true love or whatever ... I think you're looking for happiness in someone else/are smitten/content with what you're given.
And at the end of the day it doesn't really matter does it? If you're happy then you're happy!
As far as I'm concerned there's a big world out there and I want to see and do it all ... I can settle down and have stability later in life
I mean, every now and again, I become curious as to what it would be like to chase my dreams, so in accordance, I chase them
Whether it be dreams of relationships or adventures!
But then you've got a different type of dreams and reality, which I like to call Deja Vu
Now I hate deja vu with a passion, only yesterday morning did I experience Deja vu! Me and my mates had gone camping for the weekend, a few spliffs, some drinks and a few laughs as we like to
Now is this just a co-incidence? or is it chasing dreams so that they have become reality without really realising it?
Whatever it is, Dreams can become reality!
As for "adventure", isn't that what you make it? You dont have to be bouncing off sand dunes in the Sahara in a jeep, or hacking your way through the jungle to be living it wild. If you want an adrenaline rush, what the hell is stopping you from sphereing, or cliff diving? Or mountaineering? You can do a lot without leaving your country, or dropping everything.