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bottomdraw in your relationship+moving in with your partner
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ok, so "bottomdrawering" is when you start buying stuff for a house together with your partner, bcos you know you want to live together (called this bcos you put stuff you were collecting for your future house, in your bottom drawer, in the past!)
Me and my b.f have discussed this and know that when i finish uni in about a year and a half we will want to get a place together, so ive started getting bits and bobs+we've both begun saving for deposits, etc!!
What im wondering is has anybody else discussed living with their current partner? how long have you been together???
Also, to anybody who already lives with their partner, how was the moving in+house hunting process for you? and what makes you decide you'de like to live with that person
Me and my b.f have discussed this and know that when i finish uni in about a year and a half we will want to get a place together, so ive started getting bits and bobs+we've both begun saving for deposits, etc!!
What im wondering is has anybody else discussed living with their current partner? how long have you been together???
Also, to anybody who already lives with their partner, how was the moving in+house hunting process for you? and what makes you decide you'de like to live with that person
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i knew i wanted to live with him in the first place because we'd stayed over with each other lots previously and he was just so easy to live with.
and i'd had a bottom drawer since i was about 17, when my mum started getting me things in the bargain basements for me to take to uni.
Well you'll want most of those things for living out at university anyway so it's not just a case of being freakishly overprepared. I personally haven't bought anything but that's because I know my girlfriend loves the idea of decorating a house, so I wouldn't want to deprive her, and I simply don't have the space. I'm a self confessed anti-horder.
ive got the space aswell!
Kaffrin - im expecting the stress. my mates have just bought their own house+have said the same thing!! Spose you've gotta work for the things you really want though!
I can't move in with my bf for about 18months-2years, but we're gonna start saving for a house now. Turns out we don't have to save that much cos his Mum and Dad have said they'll pay the deposit on a house for us - wahey! Much as my parents will pay for the wedding (years away yet tho!), they'll pay for the house deposit
That's what a wedding list is for
Is it wrong to request financial gifts? I don't trust other peoples' taste.
But we don't have a house to put things in, that's where money would be useful.
Not as of yet no. We will do, when we have the money, I ask and she says yes.
Moving in together - buying a house was the most terrifying commitment i'd ever made far scaryer than getting married - maybe because it involved vast sums of money or possibly because we basically were buying a shack for vast sums of money and there was the worry that we wouldn't be able to do it up in time or it might fall down or something. However pratical point on the money front - you dont' just need money for the deposit - you also have to pay stamp duty and solicitors fees - both of which cant' be added onto your mortgage.
Wedding lists - Are very useful and most people expect them (or so my mother insisted when I said i didnt' want one). Anyway we had one at John Lewis (which was litterally wedgewood plates and nothing else) - but we also asked for Laura Ashely vouchers because we had everything we needed for the house except furniture - we used the money to buy a wardrobe for our bedroom which was needed.
We put all the money together and bought things that we needed, like a bed. We have lots of vouchers left over and some pennies too, which will be saved for a rainy day
In answer to the original question, the sorts of things you are "bottomdrawering" (what a funky phrase!) are things that will be useful anyway. Glasses, cups, crockery etc will be used while at uni and the likes. And saving up is always a good idea too
as someone said its stressful, much more so than i imagined! i always had lovely thoughts of us viewing houses and finding the perfect one and our offer would be accepted straight away and we'd skip hand in hand up the garden path big mistake! but everything is sorted now and we're pretty much organised for getting the keys and decorating etc. we're rather excited now!