I cant cum inside her

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Me and my girlfriend have been together for about 4 months and we're always having sex, the problem is i can never cum inside her, i very rarely do when im getting hand jobs and never during blow jobs, and it s with every gf ive ver had, my mind wanders or i get so excited that i think im gonna cum that i tense up....what can i do to fix this?

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stop wanking and calm down

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yeah im trying to, the stop wanking bits quite difficult i see her only once a week...if im really lucky. and i try to hold off as long as possible but its not easy mind i have cut it down from 14 times a week to once or twice, but is that the only thing it could be?

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im not a sex expert but that was the first thing that came into my head, it could be that your so used to self pleasure, and have perfected it so well that you just cant get the same perfection during sex and stuff, up to the standard of your wanking. i could be completly wrong but hey, the less you wank the easier it should be to cum...

on the other hand you could be getting too worked up about wanting to cum that you just dont, could just try not thinking about it and thinking about how good it feels instead

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yeah ive been trying that, it kindve works, i always get so worried that shell think its her fault, no matter how often i tell her its not.

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I have found that some guys whose foreskin does not retract to expose the glans when erect, can take ages to cum .... the foreskin almost protects the glans too much and does not slide back and forth over the glans during intercourse ... could that be the problem?

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yeah it doesnt go back the whole way then sometimes jsut becomes uncomfortable, tho recently is been suggested this is because my penis is too thick and that i should purchase some trojan magnums so i have more room inside, what do you think?

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Do you think that the condom is causing your foreskin to be restricted in movement in the condom? If so, yes, try a Magnum ...

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just imagine your a porn star and that your going to give this chick a big dirty cream pie that should make you blow your load

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Yeah - but porn stars usually bang away for ages before they cum ...

Maybe imagine that you have a gun held to your head and you have to screw your best mate up his arse and cum or you die .... then you'll cum!

Ok - this is getting silly ...

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evil_dave wrote:

my mind wanders

what the fuck, your sitting fucking this chick and you drift off to another land. when your leaving please hand your penis in at the door.

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David Grohl wrote:

what the fuck, your sitting fucking this chick and you drift off to another land. when your leaving please hand your penis in at the door.

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you ever been so tired that you cant concentrate on anything. no matter what. its just like that i cant help but create loadsve tentative links, im always sooo tired.

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Tiredness and medication can seriously affect performance. When I was on prozac I could go at it for hours and not get anywhere near orgasm. When I'm tired I find it hard too.

Some people find it hard to orgasm, but the only performance problem that's talked about is coming too quickly. You will find it a lot easier to orgasm if you don't masturbate, for some reason masturbation makes you less sensitive and slows down orgasm. Just as those who come too quickly shoukld masturbate more, those who don't come should masturbate less.

Many men don't come from blowjobs anyway.

Re-assure your gf that it isn't her, and that you just find it hard. Wank less, relax more. Once you do achieve orgasm inside her then you'll find it a lot easier. I suspect quite a bit of the problem is worry.

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Why dont many men come from blowjobs? Was on about that to my boyfriend last night and he said that no girl could make him come from one but i was like i thought i got you really near to doing before we got interupted and he said yeah you did i dunno why though.

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I don't know. The sensation is really really nice but not the right sort of sensation to come from it.

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if i've had a couple of pints it'll take a while but normally i can cum from mouth love

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squeal16 wrote:

Why dont many men come from blowjobs? Was on about that to my boyfriend last night and he said that no girl could make him come from one but i was like i thought i got you really near to doing before we got interupted and he said yeah you did i dunno why though.

I have come have come across guys that say that and but I have always risen to the challenge ... so far, so good!

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As someone else said, Blowjobs are only a small sensation ( well i've found ).
They can be nice for a small amount of time and then become dull and boring :banghead:

But the problem of you not being able to cum? See a doctor

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squeal16 wrote:

Why dont many men come from blowjobs? Was on about that to my boyfriend last night and he said that no girl could make him come from one but i was like i thought i got you really near to doing before we got interupted and he said yeah you did i dunno why though.

I've only ever given a blowjob to 4 people and 2 of them cum, one of them I could do it for hours and it just wasnt happening. Varies from bloke to bloke, dont worry about it x