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Dating a single mother...
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does anyone here have experience with dating a single mother? is it different? is it hard work? are you expected to spend time with the child?
i have no previous experience of this and not likely to occur very soon but i was just wondering as its something me and my friends have discussed before.
i have no previous experience of this and not likely to occur very soon but i was just wondering as its something me and my friends have discussed before.
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My mum told me, the guys she dated were actually really keen to meet me, not the other way round, but she always stuck to her guns and wouldn't introduce them unless they had discussed the relationship etc. None of the guys she dated saw me as a 'daughter' figure and my mum was very upfront about the fact that they were not there to play daddy - I had a father, only he had died. She said a couple of the guys she started seeing wanted to be the 'hero' and play the father figure and be one happy family. Their intentions were good, but she was quite concerned about how I'd be affected, so didn't introduce them in case it got to intense and it went tits up.
When I did meet them, I must have been about 9 - 10 years old with Steve. We all had drinks in the living room (hot chocolate for me ) and chatted. He would visit about 3 - 4 times a week. Never stayed over though (while I was there, anyway), my mama was quite strict about overnight guests while I was in the house! Most of the time when he did visit, we'd have dinner, or if we were spending the day together, we'd go out for lunch etc, it was very easy going.
So yeah, it depends a lot on the circumstances.
Anyway I think it freaked him out loads the baby stuff to the point where he lost all interest in sex - which in turn really ruined the relationship - but you know hearing a baby crying in the next room when your trying to get it on probably isn't the best foreplay.
Errr don't let it put you off though.
xxx
That happened once with an ex , freaked me out, but my partner and her 14 year old child were very cool about it.
If that's the first thing that you worry about if you considered dating a single Mum then it would probably be best you steered way clear of such a relationship altogether
Would that be a single, lesbian mother then ... ?