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How to let a friend down gently?
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Some of you may know who I'm talking about. Don't go mentioning it, like.
One of my best mates moved a long way away recently. He's got a new flat and a new girlfriend, and he's organised a house-warming party which we've been invited to.
He's not the most organised person, and he only mentioned it on Sunday. I'd really like to go, and said so, but I really am too tired this weekend. I've got a lot on at work this week, I'll be shattered, and I can't be sitting on a train for eight hours in a weekend in order to go. Especially as its only a small flat, I wouldn't be able to sleep much, and I have an important trial on next week.
He seems so excited about it. He wants to show off what he's got, and he wants to show it off to me and GWST more than most.
I really don't know how to let him down gently. Any ideas?
One of my best mates moved a long way away recently. He's got a new flat and a new girlfriend, and he's organised a house-warming party which we've been invited to.
He's not the most organised person, and he only mentioned it on Sunday. I'd really like to go, and said so, but I really am too tired this weekend. I've got a lot on at work this week, I'll be shattered, and I can't be sitting on a train for eight hours in a weekend in order to go. Especially as its only a small flat, I wouldn't be able to sleep much, and I have an important trial on next week.
He seems so excited about it. He wants to show off what he's got, and he wants to show it off to me and GWST more than most.
I really don't know how to let him down gently. Any ideas?
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but that you'd like to go down and see him and his new flat some other weekend.
The amount of work you do, especially when you're in trial all week are perfectly justifiable and valid excuses.
I know who you mean, and how it's difficult to tell him, but just be honest about the amount of work you have on (and the commuting). Nicely, of course
Soften the blow by offering to visit at a weekend more convenient to GWST and yourself (only if you really intend to of course) - one where it's just you guys and no need for a good night's sleep. Then he can show off even more. Perfick.
Then arrange a time a few weeks away.
Always give bad news sandwiched between something positive.
I felt about two inches high telling him, but its done. We haven't given a fixed date because it depends on my good lady's rota, but we're going to organise something.
It's typical that to cap it all, he chose the weekend when the main line is shut too:(