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Hi everyone
Lastnight I went out for a couple of drinks with my boyfriend and his mate. My boyfriend then saw his old school mate which was a girl. He was talking to her which I didnt mind.
But then I went to the toilet and then went back to the table and as I was approaching my bf and this girl mate of his he said 'sshh be quite she's coming''.
So then I approached both of them and said you were just talking about me wasnt you?
The girl said yes and told me what my bf said and my bf said it was all true which was that I never let him out and that I've got my ups and downs.
Do you think it was right to tell her this because I dont. This is why, its our problem he shouldnt be talking to someone else about it when he doesnt even talk to me about it.
I mean every time I pop to the toilet or go to get a drink is he going to be slagging me off to another girl?
What should i say to him? He wouldnt like it if I was telling his down sides to another boy.He said that he didnt do nothing wrong by telling her stuff about me.....
Lastnight I went out for a couple of drinks with my boyfriend and his mate. My boyfriend then saw his old school mate which was a girl. He was talking to her which I didnt mind.
But then I went to the toilet and then went back to the table and as I was approaching my bf and this girl mate of his he said 'sshh be quite she's coming''.
So then I approached both of them and said you were just talking about me wasnt you?
The girl said yes and told me what my bf said and my bf said it was all true which was that I never let him out and that I've got my ups and downs.
Do you think it was right to tell her this because I dont. This is why, its our problem he shouldnt be talking to someone else about it when he doesnt even talk to me about it.
I mean every time I pop to the toilet or go to get a drink is he going to be slagging me off to another girl?
What should i say to him? He wouldnt like it if I was telling his down sides to another boy.He said that he didnt do nothing wrong by telling her stuff about me.....
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This girl then wanted us to go out with her and get drunk....The thing that makes it even worse was that I know they've done stuff together before. My boyfriend told me as she was getting a drink at the bar so he didnt really make me feel very comfortable around her..
Remember you should be the number 1 in a relationship. If he really likes you then why is he slagging you off to some girl?
There are plenty of other men out there that can treat you a lot better. im sure you deserve more than that!
Also, he must have no tact and consideration telling you, with her there, that he's done stuff with her!
It was none of this 'girl mates' business & i dont blame you for being so mad! If my boyfriend had told his girl mates about a problem he had with me I'd be rather angry too!
But I cant bring myself to finishing with him, we are meant to be moving in together soon. If things get real shit and he doesnt respect my feelings then Im going to hav to pluck up the courage.
I aint takin no shit no more.
Get out now! there are way nicer men out there.
it sounds like you way better alone to be honest!
Remember what J-lo said - my love don't cost a thing!!
Trust me I will...maybe not now, but I will and when I do he is soo gonna regret it!! haha
I'm such a hipacrit, I'm slagging him off now. (shame on me)
If you were serious about it, you would have done so before even posting this thread because NO guy you go with into a long term thing should ever slag you off and be so tactless even to some daft bint.
You say you will leave but not yet, you're asking for all you get.
Just my honest opinion.
Yeah i suppose, what are you waiting for?
Yes, even you, and myself. I've learnt the HARD, hard, hard, HAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAARD way. It's not harsh, just the reality of it all and hopefully the motivation she'll use to move on.
agrees :yes:
sorry but why should she? a relationship should be equal, not about 1 person being better than the other.
i dont mean that 1 person is or should be better than the other
I said I'm not taking this shit no more, do it again and i'm leaving you.
He says he's going to listen but whether this is true or not is another thing. He does it again and I'm going to leave him or play him at his own game.
Sorry I know that sounds harsh but at the end of the day he is gonna know what I'm going through. If he doesnt like it then f*** him. >because thats obviously how he feels about me.
We've had problems, and we have both talked to our friends about it. It's important to get it off your chest. To be quite honest, you sound like the sort of paranoid woman who would stop him going out with his friends, and would stop him talking to his friends. And would bite his head off and cry and moan if he ever tried to broach the subject.
Am I the only one to fail to spot what all the fuss is about?
In my opinion, and judging by the fact that this girl has done stuff with him before, there is a chance that she was shit-stirring to try to put your relationship on the rocks in an attempt to get him back. Which seemingly she has acheived.
People need to talk to other people about their relationship. Just look at other threads on this forum, the way you speak to your mates about their partners, or even the exact thing you have just done on this thread. Double standards if ever there were any. Sorry if i'm being harsh.