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Girlfriends past history

Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
Hi all, I have been seeing my girlfriend for about 7 months now, I have never taken anything stronger than a spliff and alcohol, and don't like the idea of drugs. (Please don't jump on that, It's only my opinion) She however has taken pretty much everything in her uni years. I can't stop thinking of it and if to her I seem a bit nieve and clueless. I know the best thing to do is to forget it and enjoy what we have, but I can't stop thinking what kind of life she has had including some things she has told me about being a quite promiscuious (Spelling?) while high. Any advice ? You guys seem to know your onions and have some good thoughts on these areas. Cheers.
By the way, We are both in our late 20's.

[ 28-05-2002: Message edited by: TheMusicMan ]

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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    i wouldn't worry about it. i was in to the whole scene when i first started university na dgot up to some weird stuff i was even seeing a dealer and selling the stuff,but now i've met myself a nice bloke who isn't in to the scene and i fully respect that, and he knows everthing about my past i know that he understands that i don't love him any less because of our different backgrounds, plus at the end of the day we've all had a different upbringing so why is this any different. if you want to know more about he past just ask here but if you do remember that she has been there and come out the other end and so if she's like me will not want to go back
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Dont dwell on what she's done in the past, cause that's where it is and thats where she'll probably want to leave it, if everyone dragged up ppl's past then nobody would get on with the future would they? at least she's been honest and open with you, just look to whats in the future cause thats what u have 2gether! <IMG SRC="smile.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"> at the end of the day we all have stuff that we regret or would rather forget or even bad shit but would do it all again! but its all character building! <IMG SRC="biggrin.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    i used to be into drugs heavy-- tried just about everythin and to be honest, most girls are scared off by my history-- my kinda gf at the mo is wary of it and not sure what to think-- its one of the stigmas that go with the lifestyle-- basically, if she's clean from the harcore stuff (joints are ok obviously) then theres nothin to worry about-- anythin stronger, and u need to take it as it comes-- dont u guys get me wrong- i'm not anti-drugs, just know that it can put severe pressure on a relationship-- she's not 'dirty' or anythin like that so its all cool-- long-term effect are minimal anyway so what the hell!!
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    MusicMan, is she still heavily into her drugs now?? Or has she calmed down a bit??

    Either way I don't think she'd regard you as being naive or clueless, apart from when it comes to taking drugs <IMG SRC="smile.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"> Does it bother you that you don't have any experience in this area?? Don't compromise your principles just because she knows a few things you don't.

    To be honest, it's not really the big mystery it's cracked up to be, just a few mind-altering chemicals here and there. Only thing I would say (though I don't even like it myself) is that you might want to get tested for any STD's that she might have picked up [emphasis] not that I'm suggesting she's any kind of slut you understand [/emphasis].

    All in all I don't see why this should cause too many problems, unless there's more to this tale??
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Thanks all, Cheers.
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