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ive lost all my sexual confidence
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i don't know whether this is more of a sex or relationship problem...i guess its both so here goes...ive posted here before about my boyfriend's impotence (im using the term loosely,he wasn't 100% impotent), that obviously put a lot of strain on the relationship.but a while ago he went to the doctors and was put on cialis- similar to viagra.his impotence isn't physical,its psychological but we weren't able to get counselling so it was the best option.
the cialis sort of helped but he only gets 4 pills per prescription so its not like we could suddenly have sex all the time.in fact we've been having sex quite infrequently because of that and somehow along the way i just couldn't face having sex anymore.the idea of it petrifies me.i guess i associate it with fear, tears and heartache for both of us.i feel completely inadequate and i i hate him seeing me naked or even partly unclothed, i feel like i must be sexually repulsive to him (ive only felt like this suddenly)...and im in this viscious (sorry spelt wrong i know) cycle where the longer we dont have sex the more scared i am that he's going to leave me for someone who will put out and then i get even more anxious about sex.
i feel even worse because i keep trying to instigate sex and then i bottle out at the last minute and i just feel like such a prick tease, im worried hes going to start think im doing it deliberately.
i really dont know how to 'snap' myself out of it.no one knows about our sexual problems so i can only speak to him and he's reassuring but i don't think its a big turn on for him having me whinging about how unsexy i feel all the time.i dont want to be a broken record.i feel (maybe wrongly) that this is something i need to sort out myself, without him, but i really dont know how to.
the cialis sort of helped but he only gets 4 pills per prescription so its not like we could suddenly have sex all the time.in fact we've been having sex quite infrequently because of that and somehow along the way i just couldn't face having sex anymore.the idea of it petrifies me.i guess i associate it with fear, tears and heartache for both of us.i feel completely inadequate and i i hate him seeing me naked or even partly unclothed, i feel like i must be sexually repulsive to him (ive only felt like this suddenly)...and im in this viscious (sorry spelt wrong i know) cycle where the longer we dont have sex the more scared i am that he's going to leave me for someone who will put out and then i get even more anxious about sex.
i feel even worse because i keep trying to instigate sex and then i bottle out at the last minute and i just feel like such a prick tease, im worried hes going to start think im doing it deliberately.
i really dont know how to 'snap' myself out of it.no one knows about our sexual problems so i can only speak to him and he's reassuring but i don't think its a big turn on for him having me whinging about how unsexy i feel all the time.i dont want to be a broken record.i feel (maybe wrongly) that this is something i need to sort out myself, without him, but i really dont know how to.
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