what to do if your parents walk in!?!

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Hi I am new here as you can see, I'm from Stoke, female and 14.
I regularly read these forums and enjoyed them, so I thought it was about time I registered and joined in with everyone's troubles <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/tongue.gif"&gt;

Me and my boyfriend were having sex in my bed and my mum walked in. Has this ever happened to you? What did you do?

This happened 2 weeks ago and my mum still hasnt spoke to me.

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my mums never waked in but blatantly knows whats going on. She makes really embarrassing comments. Like i remember J came over and we ended up havin sex while she was downstairs and when he left she said to me:
Mum: Im impressed.
Ju:Eh?!
M:U were very quiet. The boys obviously losing his talent!!
J:<whither into floor and die!!>

This is common! Shame on my mother! U cant take her anywhere!

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My mum just doesn't say NOTHING at all to me <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/redface.gif">(

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[This message has been edited by friggarsuk69 (edited 05-05-2001).]

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Erm..... tough one there marra!
You'll have to speak to your mum about it. She is probably upset because you haven't told her and the fact that you are only 14, try talking it out with her.
What did your parents say to your boyfriend?

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My parents let me see my boyfriend still who is 16. My dad said to me that I can still see him only because he keeps me out of "trouble"

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talk to ur mum, reassure her that ur being smart about it, u know ur ready for it etc.

i can imagine it would be hard for ur mum, seeing her daughter growing up and moving on. its hard to know if she's angry or shocked or whatever if she ain't talking to u. but u gotta make the first move and sit her down and talk.

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ill try that thanks

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Oh, and make sure to tell her you're having SAFE sex. They like to hear that.

Apologise for her embarrassment, even though it wasn't really your fault.

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Maybe a good way to avoid something like that again is just to plan ahead and do it at a time when you know before hand if anyone's gonna be home, though it'll be hard if someone's home all the time. Maybe you should buy a door lock for privacy. Although your mom may get suspicious now that she's seen it, but maybe for those that havent got caught. That way, if you're quiet and not bangin the headboard against the walls and your parent knock on the door, at least you wont have to scramble to get your clothes on ASAP and making a huge ruckus makin it so obvious what you're doin

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I asked my mum ages ago if I could put a lock on my door and she said no, why what do you want that for.

Now she is in my room every 5minutes checking up on me

I have NO life no more <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/redface.gif">(

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I asked my mum ages ago if I could put a lock on my door and she said no, what do you want that for

My mum is in my room every 5 minutes

I have NO life, she is always in my face

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I have asked my mum if I can have a lock and she said no, what do you want that for.
My mum is in mum room every 5 minutes and she wont leave me alone with my boyfriend.
I used to have a life, I dont any more

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try you hardest to talk to your mum and get her to trust you

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we can tell...u posted that three times <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;

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Without sounding hypocritical.... you're 14... you mums gonna be scared in case u say your preg... your growing up...its the whole leaving home bit!!!! and will ppl think shes a bad mother if she doesn't punish you...

the thing with my mum is that what she doesn't know/see doesn't hurt. I remember she told me that if i got pregnant she would look after the baby.... never have an abortion....quickly followed by 'Don't think thats an invite'

Mums are just protective...DADS are WORSE!!!

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does your door open in the way??? if it does, try wedging a chair back under the door handle. If not, I'm stumped!!!

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Originally posted by friggarsuk69:
I asked my mum ages ago if I could put a lock on my door and she said no, why what do you want that for.

Now she is in my room every 5minutes checking up on me

I have NO life no more <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/redface.gif">(

Well, you can always put it in yourself. It's pretty cheap and it takes about 5 minutes and it's pretty easy. Do it when you dont have a b/f or g/f so it's not so obvious at the time. Say you're afraid some weirdo might sneak in the house while you're asleep and do something to ya <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;

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Ill try putting the bed by the door as it bangs <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/redface.gif">) haha

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My mum caught me with my boyfriend when I was 14, we weren't having sex but we both had our shirts off. She was upset, and made me leave the door open all the time but after a while she began to trust me more. Sex is a very serious thing, there are all sorts of implications, and you're just barely a teenager. I can understand why your mother is worried about you. I also see your point of view, because when I was your age I was doing the same things. You feel old, you want to explore that side of you, it's perfectly natural. The best thing is to try and talk to your mum about it and prove to her that you're responsible and making educated decisions. Locking your door and propping chairs against your door are NOT going to make your mother trust you more and respect your choices! If she thinks you're irresponsible then she's going to want to stop you from having sex. If she thinks you're responsible she's going to realize that there are some things she can't help, and will probably be alright about it, or at least pretend she doesn't notice (like my mum does). You have to realize that you're doing adult things, so you have to act like one. Talk to your mum!!! I can't emphasize this enough! It's obvious that she's not being very adult about it by not talking to you, but it has to be done. Just sit her down and say that you're aware of the consequences of what you're doing and you're aware that she is worried, and probably quite shocked, but you're being safe about it, and you're sure you're ready. She may not accept that, but don't flaunt it in her face. It would probably be best not to have sex in your house at all, or be VERY sure she's out. Let her try and forget about it.

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plz plz help me she wont even let me see my boyfriend now

what should I do?

plz plz help

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Hiya <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/tongue.gif"&gt;
The same thing happened to me but it was with my boyfriends dad, im was soooo embarrased, he walked in to ask if we wanted anything to eat, and got the fright of his life, and guess what happened in the end....i wasnt allowed back to his house until i was 16, then like 4months later he moved away to Cambridge, but i got to go down after his mum convinced his dad, i cant even look at his dad without going red!
Love Miss_K xxx

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Originally posted by Miss_K:

Hiya <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/tongue.gif"&gt;
The same thing happened to me but it was with my boyfriends dad

erm...what exactly were u doing with your boyfriends dad???

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now now turtle don't get jumping to conclusions

miss k might of meant whilest she was having sex her boyfriend's dad walked in

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well do u go to school with ur boyfriend?

If u do then you could see him at school.
You could also stay after school with ur boyfriend to spend some time with each other

say ur going a friends house, and then go and see ur boyfriend

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hiya <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/tongue.gif"&gt;
Im all embarrased now! I meant i was having sex with my boyfriend and his dad walked in! Noooo, turtle how could you even think that eeewwwwww!
Love Miss_Kxxxx

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dont worry miss_k we have to stand up to those people that have dirty minds like turtle

miss_k plz dont go all shy

I knew what u meant

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Originally posted by Miss_K:

hiya <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/tongue.gif"&gt;
Im all embarrased now! I meant i was having sex with my boyfriend and his dad walked in! Noooo, turtle how could you even think that eeewwwwww!
Love Miss_Kxxxx

aww, don't go all emabarassed, i knew what u meant. was just stirring. *looks at calvin "keep ur thoughts to urself"*

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There's a few options to choose from if your parents, or sisters / brothers walk in at the tickly bit !!

• Pull out quickly and pretend you're sleeping
• Shout ' wait a minute ... i'm naked !!'
• Buy a king size duvet to cover your modesty
• The safest option, send your entire family on a weekend break !! <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/rolleyes.gif"&gt;

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at the moment my mum wont let me see my boyfriend but i sneak out some times and I go and see him.

thanxs powerslave for the help ill try that when my mum will let me see him again

turtle - that was a very funny joke you did on miss_k(!)

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On a similar note, I was having a bit of a passionate session with my boyfriend in my room in halls, and the fire alarm went off!!! The girl acting as firewarden was banging on my door while we frantically searched for some clothes, and it turned out that some twat downstairs had burnt toast. Grrr. But you have to laugh....

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Maybe you and your bloke set the alarm off with the heat of passion coming from your room ? <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/rolleyes.gif"&gt;

Failing that, you should've opened the door and asked your m8 if she wanted to join in <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/biggrin.gif"&gt;

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