When are you ready for sex?

Former Member

Just wondering what you folks around here think is the appropriate age to have sex for the first time.. i personally think.. YOUNGEST.. 14, and i think this is a bit too young actually.. i'd say 15- upwards

Former Member

16 just like the age of consent, or when you are mature/ready enough for it.

Former Member

I think it depends on the person and whether they themselves feel it's right for them.
There's no set age for that, although obviously there is for the legal age.

Former Member

When you're ready for it, people mature at different ages and think differently. Bear in mind the age of consent, however, because many believe they are ready for it at 13,14,15 and when they're older they look back and realise they weren't. Not the case for everyone, but you'd be surprised how many people are slaves to peer pressure. If there wasn't so much advertising about sex, if there wasn't so much tv about sex, if there wasn't so much of a national obsession with sex, i think people would find other things to do, because it's just one of the many good things in life.

Former Member

TheShyBoyInTheCorner wrote:

i think people would find other things to do, because it's just one of the many good things in life.

yeah, guess ure right.. some ppl are obsessed and feel like they have to get laid early in life, even thought they will have more than enough time for this later

Former Member

I'd say 16/17 - because you are mature enough to understand peoples feelings. Most 14 year olds arnt very caring and not ready to commit to a realtionship. I think its wrong that people have sex at 14 - because they are still very young. I think the age on consent is just right

Former Member

When there's grass on the pitch.

Former Member

whenever you feel ready. i'm not going to limit it down to certain ages becasue i think it depends on the individual and everyone is different.

Former Member

I don't think there is an easy answer to this question, while i personally don't think kids as young as 13/14 should be doing it, i can understand that you can't stop them and as long as they are being safe and are ready themselves then it's ok.

Former Member

I think people are ready when they actually know what they are doing, and that doesn't happen at a specific age.

For some people, I reckon it could be 14. Not a lot though. And for a lot of people it should probably be 21, if some of the posts in here are anything to go by.

Former Member

sex or life-relationships?

10 or 20. roughly speaking

Former Member

It all depends on the person and how mature they are.
It's best for sex to be meaningful the first time too, so that there is less chance of them getting hurt.
The age is different for everyone, it all depends on how they feel and whether they feel ready.

Former Member

Kermit wrote:

When there's grass on the pitch.

What if you like to mow the lawn?

Teh_Gerbil

loveablesilence wrote:

I think it depends on the person and whether they themselves feel it's right for them.
There's no set age for that, although obviously there is for the legal age.

Well said.

Former Member

Lost it a fifteen and learned a few things.

1) My friends were full of shite. At the time I thought I was the only virgin in my group, wrong. Turned out I was one of the first to pop his cherry.

2) Sex was not the end all be all that I was lead to believe it was. I still remember thinking to myself while do it "I am doing it"....afterwards I thought to myself "That was it!?!?!?!?"

3) At age 21 I learned the differance between love making and sex, and that sex of sex sake is basically masturbation using someone elses body instead of your hand. Love making while being the same physical act carries an emotional stake that if anything, increases the pleasure of sex.

4) At 21 I also learned that I wished I had waited.

Former Member

Well I personally felt ready at 14, but some people in my year are so irresponsible. It's like there should be a kind of sex-test to check if you know what you're getting yourself into. I think when it comes to it, I'm quite mature about it most of the time - I'm not really one to brag, I'm protected and I don't sleep around - while some of my mates are already using sex to hurt other people's feelings, or to gain popularity/notoriety, which isn't right.
Isn't the legal age 14 in Holland? Though I guess sex education starts earlier and is in more depth there, for that to be sensible.

Former Member

Who can say? I don't know, i'm still waiting for the right circumstance at 19... to some people this is shocking, but these are precisely the type of people i have no desire to become like. most wish they were still waiting.
The answer is never a specific age is it? personally, i'm still discovering myself, i'm just not ready to discover someone else.

Former Member

Was about 15 when I lost it. Wasn't really bothered, virginity really wasn't a big deal to me.

Former Member

there isn't a set age when you're ready for sex. we all develop emotionally at different ages. i think i did it 'cause i was ready, but much of it was 'cause i wanted it over and done with. shame really!

Former Member

Well I'm ready now. 18 and counting.

Former Member

TheShyBoyInTheCorner wrote:

When you're ready for it, people mature at different ages and think differently. Bear in mind the age of consent, however, because many believe they are ready for it at 13,14,15 and when they're older they look back and realise they weren't. Not the case for everyone, but you'd be surprised how many people are slaves to peer pressure. If there wasn't so much advertising about sex, if there wasn't so much tv about sex, if there wasn't so much of a national obsession with sex, i think people would find other things to do, because it's just one of the many good things in life.

It's one of our base desires, advertising etc is merely a contributory factor. You have to differentiate between the sexes as well...males largely take sex as and when it comes, women are more selective. I don't know any boy who regrets losing his virginity at a young age, its something to proud of for most. Girls are a different story.

Former Member

dr_carter wrote:

I'm still waiting for the right circumstance at 19... to some people this is shocking, but these are precisely the type of people i have no desire to become like.

Ditto.

At the age of 19 I still haven't met anyone I'd feel comfortable enough with to be sexual with. I may still be the same in 5 years time, but who knows? We all mature at different rates to each other.

Ilora x

Former Member

dr_carter wrote:

Who can say? I don't know, i'm still waiting for the right circumstance at 19...

so thats why you oftenact like an arse around here

Former Member

I started giving blowjobs when i was 14 and first had sex a year later - I felt comfortable and don't regret it...but everyone is different - there is no "right" time.

Former Member

dr_carter wrote:

most wish they were still waiting.

You're deluding yourself if you really believe that :thumb: .

Former Member

I think it depends on the specific people involved. Some people are mature at 15, and some are mature at 18. Some never mature (my cousin's the perfect example, nearly thirty and still pulls a girl's hair to show he's interested... no he isn't retarded, just an immature jerk). If you're not mature enough to handle the concequences of sex (or potential concequences) my personal opinion is don't do it.

Former Member

if you question your ready-ness your not ready.