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Am i suffering from Premature-ejaculation??? help me please.... :(
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Hey, its been quite a few years since ive been on here, if i remember rightly..... so hey, although i doubt no-one will remember me, as i didnt really use this site much back then either. 
I have searched on the subject, and read about how everyone elses threads on it have been answered, and it has eased my feelings on the matter a little bit. But i thought it would be best if i was to post my own thread on it, and so then it would be more tailored to myself. :thumb:
Anyways, down to the problem. Basically its like it says in the title, i think im suffering from premature ejaculation. Although im not completely sure.
Basically, when i first lost my virginity i had sex with the girl about 3 times, with not much foreplay, and i came quite quickly (im talking like a 2-5minute job here each time
..... also this was without protection each time).
Secondly i had sex with another girl with using protection, whilst drunk, and i lasted no more than 10minutes tops.... :no: and that too didnt consist of much foreplay.
Finnally the girl i am currently seeing i have had sex with 4 times i believe, and there was lots of foreplay prior to the sex
3 of these times were near enough one after another. This didnt really make much of a difference to how long i lasted either....basically 5minutes tops each time. This was also without protection for 3 of the times but the last time we did have sex i used protection and seemed to last that little bit longer, although were probably talking a couple more minutes rather than hours :chin:
Sorry if you didnt want to hear about my sexual escapades lol, just thought it would help. :wave: Furthermore before anyone says about not using protection, i was perfectly safe to do so in each of the 2 circumstances, although i cant be bothered to write out the reasons why.
Anyhow, basically based on the evidence above, im just wondering if its because im nervous..... as each time i havnt really enjoyed it 100% (well the foreplay i have) as i am slightly worried about pleasing them, although i did manage to relax today, and did last that little bit longer, but still im nowhere near lasting 15minutes never mind 30 or 40minutes...... or is it because im not used to the feeling.....although i dont see this being the case as i have had it a several times now, with and without foreplay, as well as using and not using contraception. Also i have had sex 3 times in a row, and each time i have still lasted a pitiful time to be fair. :nervous:
So..............anybody know of ways to get round this and thus help me last longer, although minus the "do excerisises and relax part" along with most of the other stuff you have said to previous posters on this topic, as none of this seems to work, or if it does its only making a couple of minutes difference, which may be down to other reasons. I dont mean to be rude there, just i dont feel thats the way to go about it with me. Although any help will be much appreciated.....
Orrrr i could do the other option which is . . . . . . . . do i go and get the butchers knife and do a self-castration now to save the aggro..... lol :banghead:
I have searched on the subject, and read about how everyone elses threads on it have been answered, and it has eased my feelings on the matter a little bit. But i thought it would be best if i was to post my own thread on it, and so then it would be more tailored to myself. :thumb:
Anyways, down to the problem. Basically its like it says in the title, i think im suffering from premature ejaculation. Although im not completely sure.
Basically, when i first lost my virginity i had sex with the girl about 3 times, with not much foreplay, and i came quite quickly (im talking like a 2-5minute job here each time
..... also this was without protection each time).Secondly i had sex with another girl with using protection, whilst drunk, and i lasted no more than 10minutes tops.... :no: and that too didnt consist of much foreplay.
Finnally the girl i am currently seeing i have had sex with 4 times i believe, and there was lots of foreplay prior to the sex
3 of these times were near enough one after another. This didnt really make much of a difference to how long i lasted either....basically 5minutes tops each time. This was also without protection for 3 of the times but the last time we did have sex i used protection and seemed to last that little bit longer, although were probably talking a couple more minutes rather than hours :chin:Sorry if you didnt want to hear about my sexual escapades lol, just thought it would help. :wave: Furthermore before anyone says about not using protection, i was perfectly safe to do so in each of the 2 circumstances, although i cant be bothered to write out the reasons why.
Anyhow, basically based on the evidence above, im just wondering if its because im nervous..... as each time i havnt really enjoyed it 100% (well the foreplay i have) as i am slightly worried about pleasing them, although i did manage to relax today, and did last that little bit longer, but still im nowhere near lasting 15minutes never mind 30 or 40minutes...... or is it because im not used to the feeling.....although i dont see this being the case as i have had it a several times now, with and without foreplay, as well as using and not using contraception. Also i have had sex 3 times in a row, and each time i have still lasted a pitiful time to be fair. :nervous:
So..............anybody know of ways to get round this and thus help me last longer, although minus the "do excerisises and relax part" along with most of the other stuff you have said to previous posters on this topic, as none of this seems to work, or if it does its only making a couple of minutes difference, which may be down to other reasons. I dont mean to be rude there, just i dont feel thats the way to go about it with me. Although any help will be much appreciated.....
Orrrr i could do the other option which is . . . . . . . . do i go and get the butchers knife and do a self-castration now to save the aggro..... lol :banghead:
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if you are using porn as a point of reference for how long a guy should last then don't.
hope that helped !
BTW You will always last longer with a condom on, you get less stimulation.
Without worrying the guy anymore, the lasting time he's stated really isn't that long and I've never known a girl to get sore that soon after penetration (unless it was serious poundin :P) - 6-8 minutes is not very long at all imo.
The best thing you can do - easy as it sounds - is to stop worrying about it as this will only make it worse each time. When you're having sex with her and you feel the need to blow, stop, then start again when the feeling has subsided. Or if you're up to the challenge, cum during foreplay and then have penetration once you've gotten back up again - that should ensure that you'll last considerably longer than before.
were you possibly drunk and think you might have had more sex but cant remember
Furthermore ive never been able to come whilst recieving head..... she was trying for about an hour last night as my parents were asleep next door, and we ended up having to go at it, as i couldnt
She tells me in confidence, and i can see by the look on her face and the way that she shakes, that i make her come at least 2 or 3 times we do it, at least once during penetration.
So shes pleased and im pleased, just sometimes shes not as pleased as others.lol.
ETA. If she cums 3 times every time you do it I'm postive she would be a satisfied girl.
6-8 minutes for penetration? That's very short.
I might try the "stopping for a break" routine, and drag it out for a bit.lol :chin: Sounds like a good idea cheers fella.
Premature ejaculation is defined as persistent or recurrent ejaculation with minimal sexual stimulation before, upon, or shortly after penetration. This condition is traditionally diagnosed when sperm release occurs two minutes or less into the sexual act, or even before penetration.
According to this definition I do not think you're a premature ejaculation sufferer. But you must talk to your health care about your concerns. In the mean time you can read more about premature ejaculation
Talk to your doctor an come back with news.
Regards
I agree with what has been said here.
To the original poster, I do think you are worrying about nothing. If you are making her cum lots, which it sounds like you are, and if you are both having a good time, then I wouldn't worry. Just relax and enjoy the moment.