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men and trust.
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how can i learn to trust men???
i have had a lot of problems in the past; which has created this problem. but, it is something i seem to have serious issues with all the time. i behave so differently around guys than i do around girls. its pretty fucked up i know. but it affects me on a day to day basis. like i expect a guy to want to do nothing more than to have sex with me. or if i'm on my own with a guy, i'll try and make up some excuse to leave. its so stupid, and i feel so pathetic wrt this. in fact, i think it's like i see them as "objects" (for want of a better word) that in all probability want to hurt me or as "sex objects" (not that i want sex with them at all). indeed this is so irrational - and i know that. but even when i'm telling myself that, it doesn't seem to help. i mean, i know ALL men are not trustworthy or are not not trustworthy. and i do REALLY want to do something about it. but i don't know how to?!
so any advice on such a fucked up topic wba. thanks.
otter.
i have had a lot of problems in the past; which has created this problem. but, it is something i seem to have serious issues with all the time. i behave so differently around guys than i do around girls. its pretty fucked up i know. but it affects me on a day to day basis. like i expect a guy to want to do nothing more than to have sex with me. or if i'm on my own with a guy, i'll try and make up some excuse to leave. its so stupid, and i feel so pathetic wrt this. in fact, i think it's like i see them as "objects" (for want of a better word) that in all probability want to hurt me or as "sex objects" (not that i want sex with them at all). indeed this is so irrational - and i know that. but even when i'm telling myself that, it doesn't seem to help. i mean, i know ALL men are not trustworthy or are not not trustworthy. and i do REALLY want to do something about it. but i don't know how to?!
so any advice on such a fucked up topic wba. thanks.
otter.
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i think it would help you move forward from everything you have been through in the past - until that is delt with, you probably won't be able to move forward properly.
i think i'd find it very hard to trust another counsellor after what happened with the university counselling service though tbh. i mean, most of the time if someone mentions "counselling" as just a word i end up crying.
that is all i want to do. i'm not having much sucsess on my own.