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Telling someone you fancy them...
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I was having a discussion at work today with 'the girls' and we got to talking about telling someone you fancy them.
Have you ever done it and been rejected? If so, did you feel glad you'd done it or wish you hadn't bothered?
Has anyone ever told you they fancied you and you've had to either turn them down gently or laughed in their face? What was the friendship/relationship afterwards?
Have you ever done it and been rejected? If so, did you feel glad you'd done it or wish you hadn't bothered?
Has anyone ever told you they fancied you and you've had to either turn them down gently or laughed in their face? What was the friendship/relationship afterwards?
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my friend let slip that i'd fancied him just after we'd got together though
but i wasnt too bothered
But i once mocked a guy who admitted he had a crush on me all the way thru secondary school because i didnt feel the same and was quite immature...strange then that we are now a couple...
Funny how things change!
The first is me telling them:
About three months ago, I got asked if I fancied someone - at this time I didn't know him at all and his name didn't mean anything to me. I asked who this person was and when told, I said no. A month or so later, another friend of mine asked me the same question, I denied it yet again, but it was true. So anyway, the debate of fancying people came up about a month ago and I got asked who I fancy. I didn't tell my firned, I asked her to guess and she was wrong. I told her who it was and she was like 'well, everyone seems to fancy him. Don't tell him; he has a girlfriend.' For some reason, I ignored her advice and told him, but didn't stick around for his answer. I didn't seem him for a few days and when I finally saw him, he was very quiet around me and whenever I asked him if we could talk, he was always like 'Not now, Sofie; I'm busy.' Just before he found out, I mentioned this to a friend of mine, who decided to tease me about this. The person I fancy, I told him and he was like 'Just ignore him and forget it.' For some reason, I didn't seem to like the way he was towards me about this, but knew he was right. Someone asked me if I fancied him, which I denied. (I have a problem with people knowing stuff like this)
Last week, we were talking and this girl who saw us talking thought I wa flirting with him, because I looked at him as I spoke to him and looked at him as he spoke to me. The same girl is well aware that I fancy him today she was like 'do you fancy him?' I said that he was alright, then she said 'are you going to the prom? He's going to be there.' I told her no, because it was too late for me to go, I have no money for the next few months and it's probably not a good idea because I haven't been too well over the last few weeks. I also got asked the same questions by someone else and I said exactly the same thing.
My other story:
It all started around November last year, a friend of mine asked me out and I told him no, because of personal problems - a friend of his found out about this and seems to think that I won't go out with him because of the way he is and spread this rumour around. No matter how much I denied it, no-one apart from 2-3 people who believe me. I told him that I actually did fancy hi and would go out with him if he meant it. He told me no, because neither of us know who the serious one here is. For some reason, this rumour keep starting up again and someone told me that if I won't tell him the reason why I won't go out with his friend, he'll ask him hiself and I told him not, because I don't want anyone to know what's wrong. For some reason, some people are really convinced that we go out together. He recently asked me to have sex with him, and I told him no for several reasons.
But telling the first one didn't put you off enough to not tell the second one... which is quite good.
How were you rejected? Was it nicely?
at the end of the day, they could have said yes. if you don't ask, you don't know. asking is worth it imo. :yes:
And the second time it was done nicely, but it took me about a year to gather the courage, which is a bad thing. We were friends during that time, and it was very awkward for me. But it seems that she rejected me in the nicest way possible, really. She was very honest about her feelings, and it sounds weird, but she didn't hurt me at all. The first one hurt like hell, though...
At college, one person said she fancied me. My reaction was the same as my colleague!
i'm still mates with a guy who told me he liked me, but i was taken and happy. we have a laugh about it sometimes - he'll ask me if i'm sure i don't want to leave mr. kaff for him, and i'll tell him yes, i'm quite sure. hasn't affected the friendship at all. these things happen.
The second time I got drunk and sent a text message, that she didnt get til the morning.
I've never succesfully told someone I fancy them.
Though a girl i think im starting to like now, if i indeed like them I will try in person.
It was some lad that I used to fancy who worked in Safeway. He used to go to our school Bumble, he was called Ian Willis.
Anyway, I asked him out and he said how old are you and I said 17 (22 now) and he said yeah sure you are, cos I look young, he snorted then told me to fuck off.
Looking at it now though it's kinda funny and I don't even know why I liked him. Ho hum.
Well if he is, he can bugger off, in the nicest possible way of course. :flirt:
Yeah, as in every single one of them.
I recognise the name but couldn't put a face to it! I never thought you looked young at all. :chin: