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what if u asked yur b/f of 5 months at the start of the relationship if he had ever cheated on any of his g/f's and said no then u found out that he did off one of his friends he cheated on his ex g/f with, you confront him and he tells you he lied coz he was scared to he would lose me, which was true if i found out at the start he cheated on any of his g/f's i wouldn't have gone out with him. what annoy's me the most i get in trouble off him if i am not honest and upfront. yet hes not affraid to lie to my face but hes affraid to tell the truth.
now his ex lived 9hrs away which was stupid to start a relationship that far away if u were going to cheat. now when i confronted him i told him everything on how i felt. and that i refused to put up with this kind of stuff again coz i had enought of it with my ex. now would u think it would be worth continuing? i know i love him. it just i don't know what to think of him i ve lost a bit of respect because he lied it reminded me of my ex's lies and what i went through.
now his ex lived 9hrs away which was stupid to start a relationship that far away if u were going to cheat. now when i confronted him i told him everything on how i felt. and that i refused to put up with this kind of stuff again coz i had enought of it with my ex. now would u think it would be worth continuing? i know i love him. it just i don't know what to think of him i ve lost a bit of respect because he lied it reminded me of my ex's lies and what i went through.
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I think that everyone makes mistakes that you should just forgive him this time but you should ask him now if there are any more secrets that you arent aware of as you dont want him to lie to you, but you want him to respect you...
Hope it goes ok x
just coz he cheated on her doesnt mean he will cheat on you.
When I first got with my boyfriend he was afraid to tell me how old he was and had me believing that he was a year older than he is for a week or two. I found out and confronted him and he said that he didn't think that I'd have gone out with him if I'd known he was a year younger.
We laugh about it now but maybe he's right, maybe I would have thought twice about it adn I wouldn't have the amazing relationship which I have now. Think of your situation like that. You say that you wouldn't have gone out with him if you'd known that he'd cheated on a past girlfriend. If you'd have known then you wouldn't have had the 5 months that you have had.
If you do love him then the past is the past an its really not worth making a big deal of. Just tell him how much you hate lying and make him promise not to do it again.
sorry a bit of a rant there about ME! :rolleyes:
talk to him and explain how you feel, you need to know why he felt he need to cheat on his ex and the situation may well be different with you. don't throw a relationship away on this, if you love each other can trust each other then it should be okay